So my FI and I had to move our wedding date due to financial issues (his parents are giving us some money but the rest is on us and due to a few work-related moves our savings account is dismal). We pushed it as far back as our venue would allow us to next September. They didn't give us a lot of flexibility AND my older brother is getting married in July so wanted to avoid being too close to his. So we picked our new date and are excited about it. Well, my younger brother plays football for an Ivy League school. I use "plays" loosely because while he was king at his high school he is the second string at college and plays one series every other game. My dad is totally disillusioned about his little "star" athlete. So the fact that my wedding now falls on a game day, my dad says he's not going to influence my brother either way because he'll be grown (21 yr old) and can decide to miss the wedding or the game on his own. And, my dad says I should understand the tough spot I'm putting my brother in IF he's a starter. Uhhh he has played football since he was 5 yr old....this one game is seriously more important than my wedding. I also feel like my dad not sticking up for my wedding IS an influence because he's condoning my brother to miss it. I'm normally not a selfish bridezilla. I've been laid back thru this whole thing but this has me devastated. I think talking to my brother will help because he wouldn't want to upset me (or my mom who is besides herself over this one and thinks its ridiculous to miss my wedding) but I don't want my dad in his other ear saying its ok. I feel totally betrayed/abandoned by my dad. What should I do?