Suggestions for Asking Bridesmaids?

Re: Suggestions for Asking Bridesmaids?

• Robyn5298 member

  

  July 2010

  I think you can still write them a lovely note even if you don't know them all that well.  You will eventually, right?  

  
  

  Maybe say something like "I'm very happy to be joining your family and look forward to getting to know you better."  If you can personalize the notes by sharing a favorite moment from the one time that you did meet, all the better.

  
  

  Try not to stress over this, I'm sure the girls will be very happy to receive a heartfelt note from their new sister-in-law!
  

  
  

  

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• suz62984

  

  July 2010

  If you;ve only met her once why are you asking her to be a bridesmaid? Bridesmaids should be your closest friends so this confuses me.

  

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• trix1223 member

  

  July 2010

  suz, I think she's asking because they're her FSILs.  And in some families, that's, for lack of a better term, and expected "invite".  Granted OP's FI could have his sisters in his party, but I think OP is just trying to do the nice thing and include his sisters in the WP

  "Trix, it's what they/our parents wanted. Why so judgemental? And why is your wedding date over a year and a half ago? And why do you not have a groom's name? And why have you posted over 12,000 posts? And why do you always say mean things to brides?" palegirl146

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• Belle2Be member

  

  July 2010

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_suggestions-asking-bridesmaids?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:678b3106-de2f-4dcd-8e0a-d6595beaab0bPost:4a0313a7-7ae6-451d-8a26-b8ac46897eca">Re: Suggestions for Asking Bridesmaids?</a>:
  [QUOTE]If you;ve only met her once why are you asking her to be a bridesmaid? Bridesmaids should be your closest friends so this confuses me.
  Posted by suz62984[/QUOTE]
  
  Why should they only be YOUR closest friends? It's her fiance's sister, if thats something that she wants or agreed with her fiance on then it really shouldn't be that confusing.

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• bablingbrooke member

  

  July 2010

  They could easily stand on her FI's side if she isn't comfortable around them.  But I think in a lot of families there is pressure to make the FSILs BMs.

  
  

  I would say something along the lines that you're looking forward to being family and you'd like them in the wedding to start things off on the right foot, etc.  

  
  

  BUT don't expect the wedding to make you closer.  If it does work out that way, brilliant.  But it often doesn't, so I just wouldn't get your hopes up too high on that front.  

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