Shower Thank You cards...does FI sign too?

sunkissed212 · August 2010

I hope I'm not duplicating a recent post with this question...I scanned the first few pages and didn't see anything related so here it goes...

We had our shower yesterday and I'm getting started on Thank You notes today. Does FI also sign the thank you notes for the shower also? I know he should for the wedding but what about the shower?

(he was in attendance for the entire shower, if that makes a difference).

TIA ladies

danieliza1127 · August 2010

Since he was there for the whole thing, then yeah I'd sign his name. He doesn't have to sign it himself, you can sign both of your names.

tenofcups4me · August 2010

If the shower was thrown in your name, not the two of you, I would think the notes should come from just you.

When I got married the first time, my shower was thrown in my honor, even though the ex- was there the whole time and obviously got use out of all the presents. I wrote and signed all the thank yous and mentioned his name in all of them. (For the wedding, we each wrote our own thank yous and signed our name and the other's name.)

sarabellam · August 2010

I'm going to disagree slightly from Dani. He's a big boy, he's going to get use out of the shower gifts too, the absolute least he can do is sign his own name. Me? I'd make him do some of the thank you cards too, but that's because I'm a meanie like that.

Julz629 · August 2010

Hi Kim. :-) I am going to have FI at least sign his name on the cards from our shower. It's the least he can do -- and personally, I like when I get cards where people sign their own names since I know the other person was involved in the slightest. For the shower for his side of the family, I am going to request him to write some of the actual thank yous, as well.

danieliza1127 · August 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_shower-thank-cardsdoes-fi-sign?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:9209d776-d1a4-4763-8c13-a561033741f3Post:253bbe63-da8e-47e8-911e-fc4690dab499">Re: Shower Thank You cards...does FI sign too?</a>:
[QUOTE]I'm going to disagree slightly from Dani. He's a big boy, he's going to get use out of the shower gifts too, the absolute least he can do is sign his own name. Me? I'd make him do some of the thank you cards too, but that's because I'm a meanie like that.
Posted by sarabellam[/QUOTE]

Haha, yeah I started to say someone might disagree with this. I usually have my H sign his own name on birthday cards and stuff, but I think with our wedding thank you notes, I signed both of our names except on a few where the gift was clearly geared for him or it was his family member, then he signed.

jayjoe · August 2010

I'm crazy with thank you cards and try to get them done ASAP. I took off the day after my shower so i could put things away and get the cards started. Hubby was at work that day so for that reason i signed his name for him, they were done and in the mail before he even got on the bus to come home. However, you guys registered together, you are going to use the gifts together, i feel the guys name should always be on the thank you cards but thats just my opinion

pooh8402 · August 2010

my H wrote half the cards and he signed the ones he wrote with both of our names. I wrote the other half of the cards and I signed the ones I wrote with both of our names. maybe I'm mean, I call it fair. it's his crap too.

sunkissed212 · August 2010

Thanks for the replies, ladies!

My plan was to have him sign the cards but I just wanted to make sure. Some of the more 'old fashioned' advice I've received was that the shower was for me so I should be the only one that signs them. But I disagreed with that because like someone said, we registered together, and the gifts are for both of us. We were both there. I appreciate the input

(ps - Hi Julie)

Calypso1977 · August 2010

i believe etiquette states that thank you cards are only issued by one person - even the wedding ones.

that said, for our wedding thank yous we each wrote the ones for our respective sides, and signed the other person's name for them.

if id had a shower, i would have issued them solely from me since hte shower would have been thrown for me.

[Deleted User] · August 2010

I wrote the thank-yous for the shower bc H did not attend. I was a little concerned about that, too since some of the stuff was household things, but I think it is the thought that counts.

For the wedding invitations, I did the majority of them and there were a select few of H family & friends that I didn't know that well, so we wrote them together. We signed both of our names on them.

jandjleader · August 2010

My question is, what if he did not attend? Does he sign?

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