BS Food?

Re: BS Food?

• leahkate member

  

  March 2011 edited December 2011

  You don't throw your own shower. Period. If no one offers to throw one, then you don't have one.
  
  Also, I don't think just desserts would be good before a night of drinking. More substantial food would be needed.  As far as people expecting a full meal in exchange for their gift, that is what your wedding reception is for. Your shower is for YOU. Thrown in honor of YOU.

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• jessicabessica member

  

  March 2011 edited December 2011

  I agree with leahkate on both points.  I understand that you might not want to ask too much of your BM, but maybe you can find a friend or aunt locally that can assist your out-of-town BM, because you shouldn't be so involved in your party that it looks like you're throwing it. 
  
  I would prefer to have something more substantial, although I can't tell what time of day you are having the shower.  I like wine tastings and think that would be fun, but instead of desserts, you could have bread and cheese and fruit, and then some hot food, too, like spinach artichoke dip or appetizers.  Small pieces of high quality dark chocolate would be nice and desserty, but it's not sugar-overload.  Although I wouldn't expect a full meal in exchange for my gift (unless it was at a meal time, in which case I would generally expect more food), if your friends do expect this, it doesn't really matter what we think...they're the ones that will complain about it. 
  

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• 031107

  

  March 2011 edited December 2011

  I agree that the shower is thrown for you.  My husband and I only had 1 person stand up with each of us.  My MOH was getting married 3 months before me, lived almost two hours away and couldn't afford to throw me a shower by herself (full time college student).  So her, my mom and my 2 aunts threw me a shower.
  I don't agree with the other posters that you can't have one because your BM can't throw it.  Throwing yourself will look tacky though.
  
  I have never been to a shower that I didn't serve a full meal (I have been to probably 30+ showers in my life).

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• BrenAndJo member

  

  March 2011 edited December 2011

  Ok thanks.  Definitely food for thought! 
  
  And PS, I said I was helping out, not throwing it myself!  Just helping generate ideas and such with the girls!
  

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• frogurt814

  

  March 2011 edited December 2011

  All of the showers I have been to usually just have snack foods - sandwiches, chips, fruit, cake, etc.  I wouldn't expect a full meal at a shower, but I would expect something more than a piece of cake.

  

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• topchef33 member

  

  March 2011 edited December 2011

  I would hope that there would be more than cake or sweets at a shower I attend.

  
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• 031107

  

  March 2011 edited December 2011

  Since I responded that I have only been served a full meal and others they have never been served a full meal - maybe it is regional.  At my shower we had rigatoni, meatballs, salad, bread rolls, fruit salad and cake.  There were 78 people at the shower.

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• mica178 member

  

  March 2011 edited December 2011

  At my shower there was a variety of different Asian foods representing good luck.  We had different types of dumplings, Vietnamese wedding noodles, sushi, and Asian-inspired salads.  And we had a big old chocolate cake.
  
  When I threw my friend's shower, we went with the traditional salads, quiches, strawberry shortcake and pink champagne.

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• blush64 member

  

  March 2011 edited December 2011

  At the bridal showers in my family there is always a meal served. (generally a large buffet sort of meal with lots of different foods and desserts) We do this for daytime and evening showers but I don't believe it's necessary.
  
  If the people will be drinking and then going out to drink more I think it would be nice to have a meal. It isn't necessary if it's held really late but there should be at least something served besides dessert. (maybe lots of appetizers to go with the desserts)
  

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• TEA&Co member

  

  March 2011 edited December 2011

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_food-cakes_bs-food?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:23Discussion:1eb65fd3-5ea7-46ec-ab32-8436699fe17aPost:58d9291e-623f-4a4d-b462-0365f7e8bb7a">Re: BS Food?</a>:
  [QUOTE]I would hope that there would be more than cake or sweets at a shower I attend.
  Posted by topchef33[/QUOTE]
  
  Ditto.  Maybe it's a regional/circle of friends/family thing, but I've never been to a shower that DIDN"T serve a full meal.  Anywhere from three-course meals with a cocktail hour (seriously) to salads, sandwiches, chips, fruit, etc.  But, yeah, I would expect food at a shower...
  
  Other ideas--BBQ, soups (could do different soups in crock pots), appetizer-type food (dips, finger foods).  Good luck and have fun!

  

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