Is it wrong to want to have a wedding if this will be your 3rd marriage?
I am 29 and have been married and divorced 2 times. It's not something I'm really proud of but crap happened and I dealt with it. My FH has been married once before as well.
We are planning a wedding for Oct. 2010. I rarely talk about my personal life with my boss and we have an office of only 3 women. Mostly because she doesn't want to get married or have children. When another coworker mentions her grandson she pretty much just rolls her eyes and asks why anyone would want kids and that they ruin a fun filled life. I'm used to this response. I get it often when I mention that I want children (I also wonder how my work life will be once I have children). Anyway - She has been making some dresses and skirts for work and she is pretty good at it. I mentioned jokingly that she could make my dress. She said no and I knew she would and that was fine. I understand that she wouldn't want the responsibility if anything was wrong with the dress. I'm perfectly fine with that.
I told her that she'd be invited to the wedding on a different occasion and I even said to her that I knew she wouldn't come. She doesn't like going to weddings or holding babies. She just said that she would make sure she was busy and couldn't attend.
I get annoyed because she asked me why I was even going to have a wedding - just go to JOP she said. "What's the point? You have already had 2 weddings and he has had one. You two live together already anyway. Your just formalizing what's already there. Makes it complicated." Now whether she meant the wedding, the marriage, or the husband I don't know as far as what is complicated.
I am mostly just venting. I should have expected this from her and knew I shouldn't have said anything. Every once in a while I will mention my relationship or wanting to have kids and end up wishing I hadn't said a word. Most of the time I can keep my mouth shut, but this is something I am excited about. I also wish I had the courage to tell her well that's your opinion and I have mine.