We are having an e-party in my Mom's back yard. Invites were sent out to close family and friends. We kept it to just those people. I did not even invite family (eg: cousins, aunts and uncles) that I do not speak to on a regular basis in order to keep it small. Significant others were invited IF we knew them, if they were married to our friend (in all cases we were also friends with the spouse) or lived with their s/o. Envelopes were addressed accordingly. 2 friends who do not live with their s/o got invites with only their name on them and RSVP'd for 2. I contacted them and told them that while I wished we had the space and money to have everyone we just couldn't but would love it if they could still come. Neither girl had any problem.
Enter girl #3. Seeing s/o for 1 year, lives far away (as do FI and I), we have never met him. She has already demanded to be in my wedding party. For which I have not given any sort of response either way. She introduced me to FI. She RSVP'd for both of them. I told her what I told all the others. She FLIPPED!! Wanting to know where I got off. Taking his only full weekend off (like I knew) and taking her away from him. How dare I not invite him etc. Again we explained why... calmly. (I had FI write the email because I was upset and did not want to say anything I would regret later). She continued to push and push and push to try to make us feel guilty.
Strangely I don't. I'm upset that a friend would not respect our wishes. If she did not like the situation I would understand if she just said "I'm sorry, we can not come." But why try to make me feel guilty? I don't want to give in because that is not fair to the other girls.
Am I being a bridezilla??? or is she just a pushy friend???
Thanks for listening... I think I needed the vent more than anything.