I need advice on the wedding colors.

bellamartinez1525 · June 2010

Okay so my wedding will be four years from now. My FI and I plan on getting married on June 8, 2014, which lands on a Sunday. He wants his groomsmen to wear zoot suits. We have not chosen the wedding colors yet, so I am wondering what any of you recommend. I don't know what I want the bridesmaids to wear because I know it would have to obviously connect/match to the groomsmens' style. Any suggestions? Thanks in advance.

trix1223 · June 2010

I think that if your wedding is 4 years away, it's way, way, way too early to be thinking about colors, etc yet. You're likely to change your mind a number of times between now and 2014. And styles and trends change as well.

Wait three years and then start thinking about this. You should also wait 3 years before even asking anyone to be in your WP. Relationships change. Life circumstances change. There is NOTHING at all for a WP to have to do or think about this far away from your wedding.

I know you're excited, but you really don't need to be, nor should you be, worrying about details like this yet.

Just enjoy being engaged. GL

trix1223 · June 2010

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[QUOTE]Okay so my wedding will be four years from now. My FI and I plan on getting married on June 8, 2014, which lands on a Sunday. He wants his groomsmen to wear zoot suits. We have not chosen the wedding colors yet, so I am wondering what any of you recommend. I don't know what I want the bridesmaids to wear because I know it would have to obviously connect/match to the groomsmens' style. Any suggestions? Thanks in advance.
Posted by bellamartinez1525[/QUOTE]

quotequeen · June 2010

Uh, yeah, I recommend not even thinking about your wedding for at least two years.

bethsmiles · June 2010

I agree with the PPs...its way to early to be thinking about a wedding thats 4 years away. Your tastes and preferences will change between now and then. Come back to this question in 2 or 3 years.

Kristin&eric · June 2010

I am sorry but I have to agree dont do anything untill your 1 1/2 years ATLEAST away!!! Can I ask something, why are y'all waiting so long??

nda_roxybabe · June 2010

I know its got to be exciting but seriously, just look and collect picture of things you like, you'll be amazed how much your taste changes. Amazed.
There no use seriously looking at stuff now.

GreenPepperBurger · June 2010

You lost me after saying your wedding is in 4 years. Chill.

bellamartinez1525 · June 2010

I am waiting because he and I want to be at least in our early 20's to marry.

nda_roxybabe · June 2010

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[QUOTE]I am waiting because he and I want to be at least in our early 20's to marry.
Posted by bellamartinez1525[/QUOTE]

*gulp* How old are you now?

GreenPepperBurger · June 2010

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[QUOTE]I am waiting because he and I want to be at least in our early 20's to marry.
Posted by bellamartinez1525[/QUOTE]

*headdesk*

bellamartinez1525 · June 2010

I understand what all of you are saying to wait at least a year before the wedding but my thoughts are this: I want to start choosing things to get ideas on what we want to choose in the future. In other words, I basically want to start laying out the details BUT not ordering anything yet....that way when it comes down to a year before our wedding, he and I will be ABLE to nail the details if our consultant (or whoever) asks us what we want. Get me? PLUS! Once we figure out like the decorations (for example)..it'll give us an idea how MUCH to save the money if he and I plan on [obviously] paying for the wedding. Any responses to this?

nda_roxybabe · June 2010

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[QUOTE]I understand what all of you are saying to wait at least a year before the wedding but my thoughts are this: I want to start choosing things to get ideas on what we want to choose in the future. In other words, I basically want to start laying out the details BUT not ordering anything yet....that way when it comes down to a year before our wedding, he and I will be ABLE to nail the details if our consultant (or whoever) asks us what we want. Get me? PLUS! Once we figure out like the decorations (for example)..it'll give us an idea how MUCH to save the money if he and I plan on [obviously] paying for the wedding. Any responses to this?
Posted by bellamartinez1525[/QUOTE]
Like I said, start collecting pictures and what not, but don't think too much on color schemes and bridal wear...there is no point.

Back when I was planning a wedding 2 years ago the stuff I picked I would definitely not pick now. None of it.
You will change your mind. Especially if you're not even 20 yet, your mind will change a lot.

bellamartinez1525 · June 2010

I'm 18.

nda_roxybabe · June 2010

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[QUOTE]I'm 18.
Posted by bellamartinez1525[/QUOTE]

Yeaaaa, you will change your mind about things immensly. I got engaged at 19 and now, at 23, I have totally different things in mind.

bellamartinez1525 · June 2010

Thanks for the heads up. Hmm..so just a collection of pictures for now right? Maybe I can save some space (in a binder) with the details I like and look at em now and then to see what I STILL want or don't want.

GreenPepperBurger · June 2010

You should not be thinking about getting married at 18. That's wayyyy too young. Graduate high school, go to college, get a degree, secure a real job. Then think about wedding planning. Trust this from someone who is in her early twenties.

nda_roxybabe · June 2010

Exactly. Honestly, what I did was saved stuff I liked from magazines (with the intention of putting them in a binder). Looking back on stuff I saved is so weird because my tastes are so different.

I also have done the same with a folder on my computer, I've saved photos I like (along with where I found them).

bellamartinez1525 · June 2010

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[QUOTE]You should not be thinking about getting married at 18. That's wayyyy too young. Graduate high school, go to college, get a degree, secure a real job. Then think about wedding planning. Trust this from someone who is in her early twenties.
Posted by GreenPepperBurger[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>I already graduated from high school and I am starting college this fall. I am going to get my degree no matter what. Education is important to me. I like to balance both education and my relationship. He has never interfered with my education. He recently proposed so it's not like I planned it myself. But I understand what you're saying. Which is why (proposal or not) he and I always planned on getting married in our 20's. By then I would have already graduated and received my Bachelor's Degree.

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bellamartinez1525 · June 2010

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[QUOTE]Exactly. Honestly, what I did was saved stuff I liked from magazines (with the intention of putting them in a binder). Looking back on stuff I saved is so weird because my tastes are so different. I also have done the same with a folder on my computer, I've saved photos I like (along with where I found them).
Posted by nda_roxybabe[/QUOTE]

<div>Got it. Thanks for the advice. I'm just the type of person to thoroughly plan things right. I don't procrastinate on things and I have always admired the idea of getting married as a little girl; which explains WHY I want to start early and what not. So what can I do for now, being engaged to my FI?</div>

nda_roxybabe · June 2010

Green- While I totally agree that 18 is too young, at least they plan to wait 4 years. T and I have been together since we were 19/18, we've changed A LOT and I'm so glad we didn't get married then but we are still together. I know several couples who got married at 18/ 19 and are still together 5 years later. While I don't recommend it, I don't feel like knocking it.
I do agree about school and career though.

GreenPepperBurger · June 2010

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: I need advice on the wedding colors. : <strong> I already graduated from high school and I am starting college this fall.</strong> I am going to get my degree no matter what. Education is important to me. I like to balance both education and my relationship. <strong>He has never interfered with my education.</strong> He recently proposed so it's not like I planned it myself. <strong>But I understand what you're saying. Which is why (proposal or not) he and I always planned on getting married in our 20's. </strong>By then I would have already graduated and received my Bachelor's Degree.
Posted by bellamartinez1525[/QUOTE]

By "already graduated," you mean like, in the past month, right? So that doesn't really count. But I'm glad that you're putting your education first.

A romantic partner should never interfere in their SO's education, so that's nothing to be proud of. It's how it should be.

Proposal or not? Didn't you say he just proposed? I'm confused.

But whatever, at least you guys are waiting until you get a degree. Good luck!

nda_roxybabe · June 2010

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: I need advice on the wedding colors. : Got it. Thanks for the advice. I'm just the type of person to thoroughly plan things right. I don't procrastinate on things and I have always admired the idea of getting married as a little girl; which explains WHY I want to start early and what not. So what can I do for now, being engaged to my FI?
Posted by bellamartinez1525[/QUOTE]

I understand, its just there is no use is really planning anything yet. Besides, if you did, you'd be SO burnt out by the time your wedding actually came around. Just enjoy being together.

GreenPepperBurger · June 2010

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[QUOTE]Green- While I totally agree that 18 is too young, at least they plan to wait 4 years. T and I have been together since we were 19/18, we've changed A LOT and I'm so glad we didn't get married then but we are still together. I know several couples who got married at 18/ 19 and are still together 5 years later. While I don't recommend it, I don't feel like knocking it. I do agree about school and career though.
Posted by nda_roxybabe[/QUOTE]

I met my BF when I was 15. I didn't mean to come off as snotty, but I know when I was 18 and dating R for two years, I was all ready to get engaged and whatnot. Looking back, I was really dumb and rushing things. I don't want to see anyone make mistakes. But I agree that there are some people who get married young and make it work.

bellamartinez1525 · June 2010

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: I need advice on the wedding colors. : By "already graduated," you mean like, in the past month, right? So that doesn't really count. But I'm glad that you're putting your education first. A romantic partner should never interfere in their SO's education, so that's nothing to be proud of. It's how it should be. Proposal or not? Didn't you say he just proposed? I'm confused. But whatever, at least you guys are waiting until you get a degree. Good luck!
Posted by GreenPepperBurger[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>Yeah what I meant about "proposal or not" was that whether he recently proposed or not, we have already talked about marriage before and setting our marriage in our adult age. Or I guess in other words...regardless of him proposing..I knew he was going to propose SOME TIME in our relationship..but it wasn't necessarily going to affect our choice of "age" of getting married. Hope that didn't confuse you more. And thank you. I'm glad to hear your opinion.

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nda_roxybabe · June 2010

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: I need advice on the wedding colors. : I met my BF when I was 15. I didn't mean to come off as snotty, but I know when I was 18 and dating R for two years, I was all ready to get engaged and whatnot. Looking back, I was really dumb and rushing things. I don't want to see anyone make mistakes. But I agree that there are some people who get married young and make it work.
Posted by GreenPepperBurger[/QUOTE]

No, I agree. Really, I do. I just think its good they're waiting several years.

GreenPepperBurger · June 2010

Me too.

bellamartinez1525 · June 2010

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: I need advice on the wedding colors. : I understand, its just there is no use is really planning anything yet. Besides, if you did, you'd be SO burnt out by the time your wedding actually came around. Just enjoy being together.
Posted by nda_roxybabe[/QUOTE]

<div>How funny. Yeah I understand. I've been with him for 3 years now and yeah..just too excited I guess. Sooo...I'm guessing it'd be a bad idea to start thinking about the engagement party?<img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-embarassed.gif" border="0" alt="Embarassed" title="Embarassed" /></div>

nda_roxybabe · June 2010

Mmm, I would say if someone if going to throw you an engagement party (you should not throw one yourself) now would be a fine time to do it. The only problem with that is anyone invited to the engagement party needs to be invited to the wedding and in 4 years from now, who knows if you will still want those people there...so probably not a good idea.

bellamartinez1525 · June 2010

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[QUOTE]Mmm, I would say if someone if going to throw you an engagement party (you should not throw one yourself) now would be a fine time to do it. The only problem with that is anyone invited to the engagement party needs to be invited to the wedding and in 4 years from now, who knows if you will still want those people there...so probably not a good idea.
Posted by nda_roxybabe[/QUOTE]

<div>How about if I have a get-together with his parents and mine and the people who will become the groomsmen and bridesmaids. <strong>(FYI the attendees are relatives from both sides of the family, so I am confident enough that they'll stick to their part.) </strong>Would that be okay or still not a good idea?</div>

nda_roxybabe · June 2010

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: I need advice on the wedding colors. : How about if I have a get-together with his parents and mine and the people who will become the groomsmen and bridesmaids. (FYI the attendees are relatives from both sides of the family, so I am confident enough that they'll stick to their part.) Would that be okay or still not a good idea?
Posted by bellamartinez1525[/QUOTE]

If its just immediate family (parents, siblings), I think it could be fine but seriously, do not tell ANYONE at this point that you want them in your wedding party, you just don't know (please lurk the WP board for proof of that).

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