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Don't Want Shower?

LaurmiLaurmi
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Hi,
I'll probably post this on the Second Wedding boards too, but since this is etiquette related I figured I'd start here. This is my second wedding but my fiances first. Since I had a big shower in 2008 for my first one, I feel bad having another shower and inviting all the same people again....since they already bought gifts for me once. Is it ok to ask my matron of honor to not worry about throwing a shower for me? Any thoughts / opinions on the matter would be greatly appreciated!

Thanks!
Laura 
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Re: Don't Want Shower?

  • annakb8annakb8 member
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    You can politely decline if someone approaches you with an offer, but I wouldn't bring it up. It would be awkward for you to say "Hey, MOH, don't worry about the shower" when she wasn't planning to host one for you anyway.
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  • mbodymbody
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    Has your MOH already offered to throw the shower? If so, you can decline if you'd like. Otherwise, I wouldn't say anything until she brings it up.
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  • Girlie1030Girlie1030 member
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    I declined all offers for showers and it was my first wedding (H's too).  Showers are not a requirement. 
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  • andrea2473andrea2473 member
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    We declined a shower and my sister (MOH) threw us a co-ed game day/picnic with wiffle ball, cornhole, etc instead.  A couple people brought gifts anyway, but it wasn't expected.  It was a lot of fun and led into a great night of bachelor/ette parties.  Just a fun thought and a great way to celebrate without doing gifts.
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  • jemmini6jemmini6 member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_dont-want-shower-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:612c3b4f-38bd-45cd-a50b-412e5249a21aPost:2d81deb6-556c-4c76-9873-f31768f4640f">Re: Don't Want Shower?</a>:
    [QUOTE]I declined all offers for showers and it was my first wedding (H's too).  Showers are not a requirement. 
    Posted by Girlie1030[/QUOTE]

    Ditto.

    My sister (MOH) asked when I wanted a shower and I just said "I don't really want one at all", and that was that.
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  • AllieHysh19AllieHysh19 member
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    I really like that game day/picnic idea!!!!!  I may just suggest it to friends since they have been asking for ideas.
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  • LaurmiLaurmi
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_dont-want-shower-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:612c3b4f-38bd-45cd-a50b-412e5249a21aPost:d3dbf3ea-42ad-4304-95ec-af9db8cb4cbf">Re: Don't Want Shower?</a>:
    [QUOTE]Has she actually offered to throw you a shower?  If not, I just wouldn't bring it up.  She might not be planning to offer to host one.  If she does offer to host one, you can decline if you want.
    Posted by rebarobert2012[/QUOTE]
     <div>My FMIL has been texting my mom and asking if she's talked to my MOH yet and wants to discuss when to have it. Eeek.</div><div>
    </div><div>Laura </div>
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