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Second thoughts about maid of honor

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I am having an internal debate about having one of my long-time childhood friends as a co- maid of honor. I was a co-MOH in her wedding, however I feel that I have closer relationships with other girls and have had rough times with her while she was planning her wedding. I was thinking about making her co-MOH, however feel that is unfair to my other bridesmaids who I am much closer too. I also do not think this friend is very reliable when it comes to planning and support, unlike my other MOH. 

Any thoughts on how to handle this situation? My gut says just have her as a bridesmaid, just want to be sensitive about the whole thing.
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Re: Second thoughts about maid of honor

  • Lolagirl2012Lolagirl2012 member
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    edited July 2012
    I had a similar situation, and I found the title didn't change the support that my BM's gave me.

    My friend who I was thinking about making a co-MOH (with my sister) has been just as helpful as I knew she would be (not that this is her job, its just in her nature) without the title. Long story short? Titles don't change the support you are given. Go with your gut.

    Edit: Did you already ask her to be co-MOH?
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  • spartybride3spartybride3 member
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    Why do you need a co-maid of honor?? Just have one. 
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  • Ali092011Ali092011 member
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    Your MOH is supposed to be the person closest to you, period. It has nothing to do with who helps plan more or is more organized.

    Don't ask her to be a co-MOH, especially if it would only be because you were a co-MOH in her wedding. If you've already asked her to be a BM, "promoting" her would look bad to everyone, and you're right, your other friends would probably be hurt. If you haven't asked her to even be a BM yet, only ask her if you truly feel close to her and want her standing up with you on your wedding day. If you don't, she does not have to be involved.
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    People will help as they have the ability and desire to do so, regardless of their titles.  If the only reason you'd be asking her to be MOH is because you were MOH for her, don't.  It isn't necessarily a reciprocal thing.
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