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QOTD: Trying Tuesday!

Morning ladies! I have a to-do list a mile long, and it got me thinking. What are you trying to accomplish this week? In 6-12mos? 5 years? 

This week I'm trying to train a coworker without killing him, which is a big goal, as I have no patience and he is a deliberate learner. I'm also trying out a slow cooker chili recipe. 

In the next year I'd like to find a job wherever H gets moved, find a house we love that I can finally decorate! Oh and buy a road bike!

Five year plan involves some babies, which is freaky to think about.....by then I'll have this military wife thing in the bag and hopefully a stellar career!! 

How about you?
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Re: QOTD: Trying Tuesday!

  • BinxRoseBinxRose member
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    edited December 2011
    1) Hmmm...don't have much to do this week. I have an interview on Friday with a family who needs occasional childcare. I suppose I need to figure out what my FI and I can be for Halloween, now that he will be home for it! 2) Next 6-12 months...my wedding is in six months, so I'm busy planning that! 3) Five-year...moving back to our home state, buying a house, starting education/training to become a childbirth educator, and having a baby.
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  • LetsHikeTodayLetsHikeToday member
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    edited December 2011
    This week I want to work out everyday until Friday and I want to get a massage Friday after school. I also kinda want to go shopping.

    1 year- I hope we can have a baby and buy a house

    5 years- if the baby thing doesn't happen in 1, then 5. I'd also like to have my masters and a new career.
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  • ggirl2001ggirl2001 member
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    edited December 2011
    Ok I'm on my phone so please forgive any errors. This week I would like to start working out again as I'm not pleased with my weight gain. Within the next year I would like to be working on my Ph.d 5 years baby and have decided where we want tO settle if he doesn't stay in the military.
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  • AmandaSC1988AmandaSC1988 member
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    edited December 2011
    This week I have a lot of work and school work  to do. Boo! 

    This year I hope to find a big person job, graduate, and get married.

     5 years, probably thinking about kids, traveled a bit, bought a house, and living the dream.
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  • edited December 2011
    This week I am finishing up a paper (well starting too) that is due on Sunday.  Also, other school work as well. 

    1 year- just getting through this deployment

    2- years- Ok I added this since H is not here right now but we do want to try to have a baby when he gets back. 

    5 years- using this maters degree that I have been busting my butt to get.  Enjoying life in general
  • calindicalindi member
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    edited December 2011
    I like this one!

    This week I'd like to finish this project, even though I hate every minute of it.  I just want it DONE!

    This year I hope to start making serious steps towards a fulfilling and interesting career, which needs to have a major creative component.  Writing sounds good, but it could also be graphic design (which would require going back to school).  I also hope to get married with as little stress and drama as possible (so far so good on that front!).

    In 5 years, I want to have lived in a few different places, had new adventures (especially foreign travel - I want to go back to Europe and Asia at least once in that time) and have or be working on our first child.  I also want to have published a book (or two!)

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  • edited December 2011
    1. This week - Studying for my cisco certification test.

    2. Improving in my job, finishing up this last semester in college. Trying to figure out if this is what I want to do long term. Get Married!!

    3. In five years, I want to have made my career move (whatever that may be), have a baby. I want to explore a bit, have some fun and just really be happy. Have a close relationship with both families (mine and his) and just enjoy life :)
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  • edited December 2011
    Good QOTD irish :)

    This week: hw done (today), and the name change process doen (hopefully tomorrow). Yup.

    6 months: Well I would like to say my degree, but it looks like there is ONE class I need that isn't offered winter quarter, so hello spring quarter *humph*. So I guess, keeping in shape over the holidays!

    1 year: Degree done for SURE.

    5 year: Job set in my career field and grad degree done. It would also be nice to have our house sold within 5 years... but that depends on the market.  

    No babies on that plan just yet ;)
  • edited December 2011
    This week: Finish my apron, my paper, and go on at least 3 more runs (I ran almost 5 miles yesterday and it was AMAZING!!)


    1 year: Finally be settled into life as a newlywed (Only a year and half after we got married!).. Going on a second HM.

    5 years: Probably start trying for a baby.  Finished my BA, have a job.  We'll probably be close to another deployment.  Maybe buying a property. 
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  • divinemsbeedivinemsbee member
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    edited December 2011
    Oooh,
    This week: Get my car tuned up, finish re-arranging the kitchen. It was a bad idea to start that project with no real vision of the end of it.
    This year: Get married, find out if/how long FI is staying with the Air Force, probably move at least once, maybe twice more. Get my nail tech certification (yeah, that's become my new thing, something I've always wanted to do.)
    Next 5 years: Have at least two of our kids, God willing. Probably won't buy a house until FI is out of the military and we settle, so maybe by then, but probably not.Travel, maybe see Eastern Europe.
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  • Beachy730Beachy730 member
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    edited December 2011
    This week/next: Get the house clean and ready for my parents and their good friends to visit.  I would say force myself to work out, but I feel like I usually always say that and suck at it, so I give up.

    Within 6 months-1 year: Buy our house, move across the country again, start teaching again, and hopefully get pregnant. 

    5 years: Be done with kids (we're hoping to have 2), be estabilshed again in a school district, and just enjoying our shore duty time.  
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  • edited December 2011
    This week: Get some wedding stuff done (practice making the jam that we are using for our favors, buying our cake serving set.) Getting that extra room finally cleaned out, then buying our couch and start decorating. Getting FI through midterms this week.

    6mo-1yr- Get married, move out, and start baby making! (At the end of the year next year is the plan.)

    5 Years- At this point I've hopefully gotten FI/H done with school, and we will be in our first place away from home. Hopefully that place will be Savannah, GA. I would want to start trying for baby #2. I would want to still be working in the adoptions field, but hopefully being more involved with the children. I really only deal with potential parents at this point in my career.
  • KendallR10KendallR10 member
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    edited December 2011
    1. year: a house or at least be looking. And to be back to my pre FI weight

    5. Be in a house. have at least 1 baby. and be a CPA
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  • edited December 2011
    ggirl- what are you getting your PHD in?

    this week- study, study, study; finalize wedding date, work a bit more on guest list- would like to be able to send out STD's at end of Nov- we are 99 percent set on 5/19/2012 as our date :D

    1 year- be done with my ADN, married, hopefully relocated to FL by then with H (won't move until my ADN is finished); start work on my BSN- would love an ICU job. 

    5 year- house? (FI already owns one, but that's a long story, would like us to find/buy a house together by this point), finished with BSN working on Master's program (hopefully almost finished); have all our debts paid off but house; hopefully H would be done with school by this point, too. I'd love to breed my horse by this point too, and have a horse baby!

    I was gonna ask if I was the only one that didn't have human babies in my 5 year plan! thank you FTL!!! haha. Babies are our 8-10 year plan. We want to wait until he's closer to being out of the military so that it's less time with kids on a deployment schedule, and that way we're both finished with school and settled into jobs.  
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  • tyleet87tyleet87 member
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    edited December 2011
    Oh I like this topic. Also keeps me busy at work so I don't have to actually do real work. haha

    This week I need to get my hair color done, complete my Halloween costume, look into how much a motor mount costs for my car, get a mani/pedi, and start packing for Georgia! (Leaving next Wed)

    In 1 year I will be married. I hope to finish up school at my current college and register/transfer to a Cal State. And start saving for a house!

    In 5 years I hope to get my degree, own a house of our own, and start trying for a baby!
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  • edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_military-brides_qotd-trying-tuesday?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:13Discussion:4cd18360-f9c5-4d34-9551-296a918c9fbdPost:00e65cd3-03b2-4686-9b7c-ce13b8b188b0">Re: QOTD: Trying Tuesday!</a>:
    [QUOTE] I was gonna ask if I was the only one that didn't have human babies in my 5 year plan! thank you FTL!!! haha. Babies are our 8-10 year plan. We want to wait until he's closer to being out of the military so that it's less time with kids on a deployment schedule, and that way we're both finished with school and settled into jobs.  
    Posted by firemedicrr[/QUOTE]

    H and I are more on a 5-10 year if ever plan as far as babies go..  He'll be gone all the time and I'm just not sure if I'm up for this whole single parenting thing.  If he stays in the full 30 (which is the plan as of now) he'll also be in his 50's (He didn't enlist till he was 24) when he gets out which puts me also dangerously close to 50 and although my parents had me later in life, I don't want that for my own kids.  I want to be a mom, but I'm not in any hurry whatsoever.  I want to finish school, get a big girl job, get my masters, travel, and so much more before kids..
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_military-brides_qotd-trying-tuesday?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:13Discussion:4cd18360-f9c5-4d34-9551-296a918c9fbdPost:c859c546-3631-41cc-b8a8-2d30ed9d7be1">Re: QOTD: Trying Tuesday!</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: QOTD: Trying Tuesday! : H and I are more on a 5-10 year if ever plan as far as babies go..  He'll be gone all the time and I'm just not sure if I'm up for this whole single parenting thing.  If he stays in the full 30 (which is the plan as of now) he'll also be in his 50's (He didn't enlist till he was 24) when he gets out which puts me also dangerously close to 50 and although my parents had me later in life, I don't want that for my own kids.  I want to be a mom, but I'm not in any hurry whatsoever.  I want to finish school, get a big girl job, get my masters, travel, and so much more before kids..
    Posted by SamiJoeB[/QUOTE]<div>
    </div><div>My FI enlisted prior to them changing retirement, so he has to stay in 20 years to get full retiremett. He may or may not stay in longer than that (he plans on at least staying reserves) but that means he has 13 years left before he could retire out of the navy. We don't plan on waiting that long, though... we will probably start trying towards the 8 year mark when I'm in my late 20's/early 30's which would put him in his mid to late 30s. </div><div>I know I'd be capable of some of the aspects of single parenting, sure- but we'd rather do this for the least amount of time possible, more for the kids sake than mine, but definitely for my sake too.... and his because he doesn't want to miss out on the fun :) He really wants kids, but he's the one who suggested the 8-10 year plan... and it didn't take me long to say I thought that was good! 

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  • BinxRoseBinxRose member
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    edited December 2011
    I'm not completely baby crazy or anything, just get the fever sometimes. But for now, nannying and living vicariously through my sisters is perfect! For me, I'd be happy with having our first baby around 27 (which is four years from now). We will have been married for four years, and I think that's a good amount of time to be "just us." Part of the reason I don't want to wait much longer than that is we don't want to be an older parents. My parents were 27 when they had me, and I like our age difference. My friend's mom had another kid when she was 43. The kid is now five. The mom has even admitted to my friend (her daughter) that she is just too tired to properly discipline, so the kid gets away with everything (and TBH, he's a brat). I don't want to be old and tired haha! Another reason I don't want to wait much longer than 27 is that I think it would make more sense to have actually experienced childbirth before I become a childbirth educator (and later a doula). And I'm really excited to start that job, so the longer I put off having a baby, the longer I put off starting my dream job. ETA: In addition to childbirth educator and doula, I also want to be a certified lactation specialist.
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  • edited December 2011
    Week: I have a ton of projects. One that I am determined to finish is repainting some cubes/end tables... it's more labor intensive then I originally planned.

    5 yr: With 1 kid thinking about the 2nd haha. If we stay stateside then buy a house.
  • edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_military-brides_qotd-trying-tuesday?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:13Discussion:4cd18360-f9c5-4d34-9551-296a918c9fbdPost:c5cb7dea-3e06-4e74-a4d0-6af1ec6c0e00">Re: QOTD: Trying Tuesday!</a>:
    [QUOTE] <strong>My parents were 27 when they had me, and I like our age difference. My friend's mom had another kid when she was 43. The kid is now five. The mom has even admitted to my friend (her daughter) that she is just too tired to properly discipline, so the kid gets away with everything (and TBH, he's a brat). I don't want to be old and tired haha!</strong> Another reason I don't want to wait much longer than 27 is that I think it would make more sense to have actually experienced childbirth before I become a childbirth educator (and later a doula). And I'm really excited to start that job, so the longer I put off having a baby, the longer I put off starting my dream job. ETA: In addition to childbirth educator and doula, I also want to be a certified lactation specialist.
    Posted by BinxRose[/QUOTE]

    My parents were 40 and 42 when I was born.  They'd always wanted a baby, but they couldn't get pregnant, so they adopted my sister in their early 20's.  I was a "change of life" baby, and there's 16 years between my sister and myself.  I'm actually closer in age to her kids than to her.  I was always really well disciplined, but it's like my sister and I had completely different parents.  With her they played soccer, and tennis and went on trips and went to family gatherings and stuff, whereas with me it was more about dropping me off at this class, or this lesson.  They were and still are, there for both of us, but idk, I've always just kind of found it interesting at how they "parented" both of us..  I know H and I could handle the "older" parent thing, although now parents who are in their late 30's are considered "older" parents, Thank you 16 and pregnant.
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  • BinxRoseBinxRose member
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    edited December 2011
    Ya that is a bigger issue for my FI. His parents were 21 and 23 when he was born (he was a "surprise!" baby). He thinks MY parents were old at 27!! He wants to be able to play ball and wrestle and go hunting with them (for some reason he insists we won't have any girls haha...not that girls can't do that stuff too). And I understand his reasoning. But at the same time, I try to get him to see that this our only time to be "just us" w/o being responsible for another human life.
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