FI's dad has issues with our relationship- he always has. I've shared it here quite a few times. We've now been together for over 4 years, and he's still not 'there' with his support.
Anyways, yesterday FI had a conversation with his dad and it didn't go superb. His dad said he's concerned that I don't care about Jeff's lutheran heritage. This is NOT true. I do care about it. I've tried to learn about his past and beliefs as much as I can. Together we've decided to not go to a lutheran church together and go to a less traditional (nondenomonational) church instead. Instead of his dad saying he wishes that Jeff would still be lutheran or whatever, he blamed it on me for not 'caring' about Jeff's lutheran past. This bothered me.
Second, his dad said that I have all the power in the relationship. Funny part is, his dad is NEVER around us. I've been in the same place as him twice since the end of summer (Christmas and his aunts birthday party). It bothers me that his dad said this because someone else (who he wouldn't tell who) shared this with him. Even though Jeff and I both feel that the power in our relationship is a very even split. There are some things I take charge on, and there are some things he does.
I'm pretty upset about this and REALLY don't want to deal with it 7 months before the big wedding day. But, I suppose 7 months is better than dealing with it a month before the day. I just want his dad's support.
So, any advice? Should I leave it completely up to Jeff and his dad to discuss the concerns? Or should I meet with his dad as well?
Thanks so much ladies!
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