My wedding party is already somewhat large. I have my sister, my two best friends from my home state of Maryland, my roommate for the past few years at college, and my two other best friends from college in Kentucky. That's 6 girls, but they have all been super important in my life to this point so I couldn't imagine one of them not being there.
Well, I had mentioned to another girl about a year ago about being my other BM, because we were really good friends at the time and pretty close. The thing is, a lot of stuff has happened and we aren't really as close anymore. She isn't quite the same person as she used to be. For one thing, she is always super depressed all the time, but whenever we try to snap her out of it she just doesn't want to do anything. She refuses to go on medication, which I think she might need to because I think her hormones are messed up, and for the most part being around her just kind of brings me down since she is in a bad mood most of the time. Also, to be bluntly honest, she used to be an innocent minded girl who would accidently make sexual-innuendos and we would all laugh. Ever since she slept with a guy for the first time she has become completely boy crazy and sex-minded. Whenever she does want to talk about stuff it's usually boys or sexual stuff. I mean, I know it's normal for most girls to talk and joke about that stuff sometimes, but that's literally the majority of what she thinks and talks about. And, the first two guys she ever slept with happened to be friends with my fiance. The first one we set her up with because we thought they would be good together. They sort of dated for a little bit but then he left the state for work and she had attached herself to him way too fast (super clingy) and was heartbroken when he left, even though no one had made any commitment. The same thing happened the second time except we hadn't tried to set her up that time. Well, since my fiance knew them she kept texting him about them all the time. Nowadays she will text him about how she needs to find a guy and she's so lonely and has no friends, and how we (her, me and him) need to hang out. BUT she doesn't text me hardly any of that stuff, and that bothers me. I am her friend, not him. He is sort of her friend, through me, but they aren't really friends if that makes sense. He already told her once a few months ago she needed to chill on the texting, and she did for a bit, but it seems to have started again. He usually ignores her when she texts him. I think she does it because he is like the only nice guy she knows, but he is MY guy, and I think that sometimes it's a little inappropriate and unnecessary... And it's not his and my job to find her a guy. That's her own job. She doesn't want to go out to meet guys or friends, so how does she expect to get any if she just lays around the house all day?
My wedding isn't for a little over a year and a half, so I haven't sent out anything official as far as inviting the girls to be my BMs. But the other 6 I know for sure will be. Since I already mentioned to the girl about being a BM, does that mean that I HAVE to keep her as one? I mean, I'm still friends with her and I definitely want her to be AT the wedding, I'm just not sure if I want her to be IN the wedding. Does that make any sense? Any suggestions on what I should do? I really don't want to hurt her feelings by not making her a BM since I mentioned it once about a year ago, but so much has changed since then...Any advice would be appreciated.