Hi Everyone... I've been lurking for a while, but this is my first post. I could really use some advice!
My fiance and I decided (when our bestman and MOH asked) to have our bach parties the Thurs. before our wedding. We've been out of college for a good decade and our friends are scattered around the country. With everyone already flying in for the wedding, it made sense at the time to save everyone another plane ticket. My fiance decided he really wanted a small bach. party with just his groomsmen (his brothers). But I decided to invite all my girlfriends coming in town for the wedding. Well now we are having a lot of drama (which I suppose we could have foreseen, but didn't), because of one half of a couple being invited to mine but the other half not invited to my finance's party. I understand that people are flying out for the wedding as couples, but I don't think my fiance should have to invite an extra 10 or 15 people to his bach. party when what he really wants is a quiet night with brothers who live far away and that he doesn't get to see that often! Everyone doesn't understand why we can't make just one exception for their significant other (but obviously if we make any exceptions then the others will be just that much more mad).
This is creating so many problems I feel like just calling off my bach. party. But then I feel bad, because my BM has already planned and is really excited about it. If I cancel it and just have a night out and all of the significant others can come then I guess it would fix the problem. But I was looking forward to a night out with just the girls. sigh...
I hate to offend or upset people, but it seems like this is a lose-lose situation.
So I guess my question is, stick to girls only and risk really offending some friends and family members (cousins) or give up on the girls night, explain to my BM, and do a big co-ed night out.
FYI, a couple of people have suggested I just need to tell fiance he has to invite A, B, C, etc. to his bach. party. I won't do that. It is his party and it is between him and his bestman to plan. I'm NOT getting involved.
Sorry this is so long!! Thanks!