Alright...
So I was hanging out on my "home forum"... and there was a thread started by a girl asking *why* some of us (myself included) never ever ever *ever* want children. Everything was all fine and dandy until our resident idiot spoke up... And since I have to behave over there and can't *really* express what I think about this... I thought I would bring it here and let you guys have a go at it, haha (I know, I'm going to Hell, I've already accepted this.)
She said:
I never wanted kids for as long as I can remember but now that Im married and have had a few scares that I might have been pregnant (which I wasnt) I have changed my mind. BUT... if I ever have a kid Im praying its a girl cause I honestly think if I have a boy I wont have a bond or relationship with him or that I might even not want anything to do with him.
Seriously my DH and I had a talk about this the other day and I told him I just feel as if I have a boy and not a girl I just have this deep down feeling in my gut that I wont "love" him the way a mother should, like Id love him cause hes my kid but Id force myself to not be close to him. I think the main reason is I see how A LOT (not saying all) of guys are mamas boys and I was watching Tyra about it once and this guy left his girlfriend and his child to go back to live with his mother at the age of 26 and he didnt care that he was leaving his child and didnt care how the girl felt cause his mom was the only important one to him. Then another one he hung out with his mom more then his girlfriend and acted like she was more of a friend then his mom and even told his gf his mom came first before her even if they were married and had kids. And another one moved right by his mom and brought her on dates with him and whateveer girl he dates.
And my mom plays favorites with my brother he can do nothing wrong to her and everytime shes on the phone with him she always tells him she loves him, besides for at my wedding she hasnt told me she loved me since I was little, my DHs adopted mom is psychotically "obsessed" with my husband (she trys to put things in his head so he will want to go back to her and not have his own life, and sometimes it gets so bad he cant tell how bad shes manipulating him and its sad).
Now I know not every mother and son are as bad as that and Im not saying I wouldnt want a close relationship with my "son" its more so for how he would act once he was older cause its not fair to the girls he would date or possibly marry if he was stuck on mommy his whole life so I just feel that in order to make him not be like that is to not be as close with him as I would if it was a girl.
...How f***ing brilliant is that?