I will start by apologizing for the length of this post... sorry a girl's got to vent.
My FI's family is a blended family, both sides do not get along very well. We have been dating for over 6 years and he recently just proposed. Over these last 6 yrs. his family has been "less that cordial" to me. His father has always been nice but his step mom has always throughout our relationship thrown out a lot of back-handed comments and hurtful things and tries to explain it by saying that "she just grew up in a different time" His mother is an incredbly close-minded and manipulative woman. Since we started dating she never made it a secret about her families contempt for her son dating a person of mixed race (my mother is of german decent and my dad is from puerto rico.) They ahve even gone so far as to say very nasty and racist things about my parents, my brother and sister, and myself.
My FI has repeatedly asked them to keep their comments to themselves and even gotten into several fights w/ his family b/c of the way they treated me. Now that we are in the beginning stages of our wedding we are both entertaining the idea of going to puerto rico for our wedding, but are having trouble resigning ourselves with the fact that alot of his family wont be able to attend b/c of money. I asked him if he was okay with that, and he said its what he wanted. But obviously there is no easy way out of this.
Is anybpdy else having serious issues with their FIL's???? Are we wrong thinking that we should just go to PR like we want and tell everbody else that if they want to be there they need to start saving???