I am 5 days away from the deadline for my rsvps. I know you should give a couple days after the date in case they send them that day and since it's a Saturday, I figured wait till the first.
When needing addresses, FMIL gave me a notebook at one of the cousins (whom I hadn't met) birthday party and told me to go get their addresses. I made FI do it because I didn't know everyone and it felt awkward, at least it gave me a chance to meet them. She also called one cousin to make sure it was ok for me to call and ask for their address. Why not just ask for it and leave me out? I do actually know this cousin.
Out of the 99 people FMIL insisted we invite, 39 have rsvp. I am willing to call the 2 Aunts I know, but not the rest. I don't know them well enough. I know if I leave it up to FI, nothing will happen. I need to say something to FMIL about calling them, but I think she's going to say just assume they're coming.
How do I explain I need to know for the catering? If it was only a few I would be ok with it, but 60?