Thank Yous for Early Gifts?

kimiandgary · April 2012

We have started to receive wedding gifts already for our June wedding. What is the etiquette about sending thank you notes? Should I send them one now and another after the wedding (assuming they have attended)?

We are doing a cute pic for our thank you card and I want to make sure they one of those as well, but I don't know if waiting 2 months to send one is right either. Any thoughts?

dumdumfroggie · April 2012

Send thank yous for the gifts as soon as you get them. The givers will want to know that they were received.

You can always send a second TY with a note thanking them for attending if you really want to send your picture to them.

Avion22 · April 2012

Send them now. Open the gift to make sure it arrived in good condition, then send an immediate thank-you note letting the giver know that you received it. Don't use the item until after the wedding. If it's money, then go ahead and deposit it, but keep it separate and don't spend it until after the wedding. If for some reason your wedding doesn't take place as planned, all gifts and money you receive should be returned. And if you already have stationery with your new name or monogram,then don't use that until after the wedding -- plain old generic thank-you cards are fine :-)

You'll be glad to get some thank-you notes out of the way before the wedding!

pgcp · April 2012

Also, don't worry about the picture note cards. Most people simply don't care about those. It is far, far more important to get a timely note out than to send a picture that will end up in the recycle bin.

pokepoke27 · April 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_thank-yous-for-early-gifts?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:0d25f920-aa15-4762-a626-9a9971c7e1e9Post:5cba12e5-1d4b-4fad-bec8-60c520304398">Re: Thank Yous for Early Gifts?</a>:
[QUOTE]Also, don't worry about the picture note cards. Most people simply don't care about those. It is far, far more important to get a timely note out than to send a picture that will end up in the recycle bin.
Posted by pgcp[/QUOTE]

<div>Agreed. </div><div>
</div><div>You would be suprised by how very few people really want a picture of you.</div>

rebarobert2012 · April 2012

You should open the gifts and send the thank you note now. People will want to know that their gifts arrived safely and that you appreciate them. However, wait to actually use the gifts until after the wedding.

If you want to send people a picture later, you can. But send the thank you notes for the gift now.

cpm1223 · April 2012

Do you know if you are having a shower or not? These gifts might be shower gifts from people who maybe can't attend your shower.

I'd do what PPs suggested, open the gifts and make sure everything is in tact, then send a thank you right away.

The only reason I bring the shower up, is that your wording might need to be different if they are shower gifts as opposed to wedding gifts and people might wonder why you're thanking them for their wedding gift, if its supposed to be a shower gift.

Avion22 · April 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_thank-yous-for-early-gifts?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:0d25f920-aa15-4762-a626-9a9971c7e1e9Post:152592a4-d0b1-4763-a178-0074a69af813">Re: Thank Yous for Early Gifts?</a>:
[QUOTE]Do you know if you are having a shower or not? These gifts might be shower gifts from people who maybe can't attend your shower. I'd do what PPs suggested, open the gifts and make sure everything is in tact, then send a thank you right away. The only reason I bring the shower up, is that your wording might need to be different if they are shower gifts as opposed to wedding gifts and people might wonder why you're thanking them for their wedding gift, if its supposed to be a shower gift.
Posted by cpm1223[/QUOTE]

<div>Or you could just say, "Thanks so much for the bamboo spatula set!" and not mention if you think it was a shower or wedding gift. </div>

Catwoman708 · April 2012

Yes, send a thank you as gifts are received. You can always send another later if needed.

For gifts received closer to the wedding, you could wait until after the wedding.

If the gift was shipped, it's considerate to let the sender know as soon as possible that you received it, with a phone call, text, or e-mail, but follow up with a written thank you later.

kimiandgary · April 2012

Thank you for the advice!!

I hate coming here to ask questions because of people like pokepoke (You would be suprised by how very few people really want a picture of you.) Not really necessary and plain rude. But everyone else, thank you for the advice.

I am having two showers and some gifts are shower related and say so on the card. Two I know for sure are wedding gifts because of the note they came with. I will get the thank yous out ASAP.

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