Hi all,
Seems like there are a lot of NWR posts today, here's one more...I was hoping I could get some objective advice from you all.
Several years ago, I dated a guy (let's call him Jim) for a couple of months. It was not very serious, and I actually met my now husband (of two and a half weeks) when I was seeing Jim and ended things with him. However, Jim and I remained friends and he was actually a guest at my wedding.
Fast forward to yesterday and my sister sends me an email saying "your friend Jim Facebook stalked me and he wants to get drinks. Is it safe to say yes or should I run?" I asked her exactly what he said, and she forwarded me his email. From his email, it seems like he's asking her on a date.
My sister does not know that Jim and I ever dated...in fact, one of the reasons I ended our brief relationship was that I could not see him fitting in with my family, and I could not see them liking him very much. My dilemma is whether I should disclose to my sister that Jim and I dated - it was several years ago, and was not a serious relationship, but at the same time, it is something that might bother her if she found out at a later time, or might change her decision now as to whether or not she would want to go on a date with him. I don't know that she's particularly interested in him - I don't believe they even talked/spent any time together at the wedding (he had a date with him, and they were not seated anywhere remotely near each other, and I do know he spent most of the evening with other friends) so this is kind of coming out of the blue.
So my question to you all - if a guy asked you out (let's assume you are not engaged/married!) would you want to know if he previously dated your sister?
CN: A guy I used to date has asked out my sister. Do I let my sister know I used to date him? If it were you, would you want to know that a guy asking you out used to date your sister?
ETA: Paragraphs didn't show up in original post.