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K&M2002
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Not Talking to Maid of Honor
Long story short - my maid of honor is mad at me because my grandmother babysits maid of honor's child and maid of honor wants to claim some ridiculous amount as childcare expenses ($1200) on her taxes so she can get more money back but my grandmother is only going to sign off on what she actually paid her (about $400). I of course side with my grandmother. Since this whole thing has taken place, I haven't heard from maid of honor and I don't know if she's still going to be in my wedding. I called her once and she didn't answer or return my call. I'm not going to keep calling her and I believe that she should be calling me and my grandmother to apologize for getting upset over the law. I just need to know at this point if she's going to be in the wedding or not....
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Re: Not Talking to Maid of Honor
I do think that if she wants to claim the $1200, she needs to pay your grandmother another $800, of course.
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As for the b-party and shower....if she doesn't plan them, perhaps someone else will step in and do it. But those also aren't required. Nice to have? Sure. But you'll be just as married without a shower and b-party as you will with them.
But I also second other posters. After the wedding, if she does show up, I don't think I'd be encouraging a continuing friendship with someone who wants a family member of mine to break the law.
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Just don't replace her. That is a horrible thing to do to the "not good enough the first time around" MOH.
But ditto PPs.
Let things settle as they do. If that unfortunately means that she doesn't plan a shower or bachelorette, that has to be OK.
[QUOTE]Long story short - my maid of honor is mad at me because my grandmother babysits maid of honor's child and maid of honor wants to claim some ridiculous amount as childcare expenses ($1200) on her taxes so she can get more money back but my grandmother is only going to sign off on what she actually paid her (about $400). I of course side with my grandmother. Since this whole thing has taken place, I haven't heard from maid of honor and I don't know if she's still going to be in my wedding. I called her once and she didn't answer or return my call. I'm not going to keep calling her and I believe that she should be calling me and my grandmother to apologize for getting upset over the law. I just need to know at this point if she's going to be in the wedding or not....
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That sucks, and I can see you maybe not even wanting to be friends with her after this. But unless you're 100% sure about that, don't kick her out, and don't replace her if she decides to drop out. As PPs have said, sides don't have to be even, and if your wedding's in just 3 months it's kind of an insult to the replacement because it's clear she wasn't your first choice.
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