Rose ceremony for mothers..not cool?
brixylove
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My brother had a rose ceremony in his wedding that honored the mother of the bride and groom. They both hand one to their respective MILs. Well she handed hers to our stepmother instead, which sucked because I felt my mom's sadness that day. They weren't the closest at the time and had a falling out, but our stepmother has been a major B!T(# our whole lives and never once tried to help or support him with anything.
It may sound ridiculous but I really would like to honor my mother on my wedding day, not because of what happened before, but because I love her like crazy and I believe she deserves it. I actually saw a wedding on TV where the the bride and groom got a "last kiss before marriage" from their mother, since they were the ones that gave them the first kiss into life. I thought it was great, but I don't know if we'd want to do that.
My problem here is that I don't want to offend my stepmother like my mother was offended, but I don't want her to get a damn rose. ha ha.. she's never been a mother to me. I don't think she'd be crazy upset or anything, she's kind of a cold-to-the-bone type, but would it just be mean spirited? I'm not trying to be at all, I just really want my mom to be part of the ceremony. ughh... sometimes relationships with stepparents can be difficult. I'm not even prepared to think about the daddy/daughter dance and my stepdad.
Re: Rose ceremony for mothers..not cool?
I think it would be fine to give the biological mothers their roses or last kisses. Unless the stepmother had a role in raising you, I don't think she should expect to be treated like an MOB. I am a both a mother and stepmother of adults, if that counts for anything.
If you are getting bouts and corsages to honor close family members, it would be nice to include stepmother in that.
If it helps though, I am *leaning towards* having my stepmother walked down the aisle (so she's acknowledged and "special") but only having my mom and his mom step up for the roses. I would think she'd have to understand that this is for my mom! Here's hoping anyway!
[QUOTE]but because I love her like crazy and I believe she deserves it. I actually saw a wedding on TV where the the bride and groom got a "last kiss before marriage" from their mother, since they were the ones that gave them the first kiss into life. I thought it was great,Posted by brixylove[/QUOTE]
If you do it for THIS reason, it will be fine. Your stepmother, however long she has been in your life, did not give birth to you. Include her in corsages, and in the program if you use one.
As for Father/Daughter dance, I saw something great at a wedding last year. The bride was close with both Dad and SDad. She danced to one song (a longer one) and danced the first part with Dad, second part with Stepdad and the very end he handed her over to husband!