First off this is very difficult to explain so I will start off with some background. My mother and I have not been close for about ten years now, the only time we talk seems to be when we are fighting. It's much easier just not to talk, but then again I still get her snarky remarks through text (always started on her behalf). When I first told her I got engaged she just changed the subject to talk about her new boyfriend. It has been like this most of my life and I have learned that nothing I do is good enough. When we do talk (which hasn't been for 6 months) it's about nothing important just enough to valididate that we are still mother and daughter. The thing is I feel horrible that I don't want to invite her to my own wedding but I was married very shortly previously and she ended up storming off b/c the pics were delayed b/c of weather. Also she complained the brief 20 mins she was there about my dad's family. She often lacks any positive remarks, even if everything seems to be just dandy. Everything is about her and for once in my life I would like to have something go right and not have her complaining. She also wouldn't know anyone since my parents are divorced and wouldn't be caught dead in the same room without a judge. I am very, very, very close to my dad and I consider myself lucky but I know my mom would be extremely hurt if she found out my Vegas wedding really wasn't an elopement but planned for almost a year. I'm afraid my mom and dad would end up fighting and or my uncle would say something to get her going (he's a bit blunt). I think if I don't invite her this will be the end of our relationship forever, not even any fighting. My mom isn't some crazy lady on drugs or anything but a very selfish woman in her 50's that thinks everyone around her is wrong. By the way I'm not the only child she pushed away. It hurts me very much that we can't even talk and I have hoped for a long time now that my apologies would fix everything but really there's not much I can apologize for. I really appreciate those of you who read this, please help me figure out what to do. I know in the end she is the woman that gave birth to me and for that I thank her but every time I talk to her it ends in tears.