My wedding is in the hometown of my FI - none of my family members live nearby so they will all be OOT guests. My FMIL has mentioned on numerous occasions that she wants to throw me a shower the weekend before our wedding. There is no way any of my family can/would take an entire week off work to travel for a shower and a wedding. Is it all right for her to host a shower for only her friends and family? Even my mother wouldn't be able to make it.
Also, my sister, also my MOH mentioned how she wanted to throw a shower with my mother, but in order for our family to attend it would have to be just a few days before the wedding- I feel like this is just asking people to take extra time off work and buy extra presents.
How do I deal with these conflicting showers and my nagging feelings of asking for too much?!
My FMIL wants to throw a shower but my family can't attend, and my MOH also wants to throw a shower but only a few days before the wedding, asking OOT guests to come early with extra gifts. What to do?