I'm new here but have been lurking for months getting to know the right things to do as a MoB. But now I need some advice, but the background info is rather long.
My daughter asked me to sew the bridesmaid dress, the table overlays and the favours which are also a sewing project. I have a new sewing machine and serger which can do the appropriate finishes, embroideries and I am set up to handle and cut large quantities of fabric.
I was thrilled and honoured to do this for my daughter and have spent months on researching and practicing coutour sewing technques and am just going to start the first of the dresses this week. My daughter picked out the fabric and patterns and I paid for it.
Same deal with the organza overlays. I reserached and found the colours, showed the colour swatches and then ordered and paid for the organza fabric.
The favour project fabric has yet to be odered, but it is also a project that requires machine embroidery and special hemming techniques as on the overlays.
Starting this past June, the MoG began asking my daughter and her fiancee to do some of the sewing even though I had already been asked and agreed to do it. I told my daughter that if the MoG wanted to do the overlays and it was agreeable to her then to tell me and that would be fine. My DD said she wanted me to do it.
Well apparently MoG has not let this go and continually asks her son and my daughter about it. It was mentioned to me again today and my daughter and I ended up in a disagreement. We've patched things up, but it has left me feeling guilty and angry. Guilty because MoG hasn't got a "special project" to do for the wedding and I do, and angry, because I feel she is causing trouble. Also she is putting a damper on what so far has been a very nice mother-daughter time.
MoG feels she has no input in the wedding planning, but neither do my husband and I. We have contributed financially, but neither she, nor FoG have, but we don't feel it's necessary to tag along with the bride and groom to their vendors' meetings, pick out their colours, decide on the flowers etc.
What are your opinions? Help will be needed to prepare invitations for mailing, so my DD is going to ask for her help there. But MoG hasn't offered to help with wedding jobs, she wants to do one or more of the sewing projects.
I'm upset for my DD because she doesn't need this pettiness. Or does the MoG have a valid point?
She hasn't sewed in years and her level of sewing expertise is limited, plus she doesn't have the sewing machine and serger which can do a professional job and the embroidery. She also works full time and I am retired. My daughter feels under pressure from her fiancee and his mom.