My son just got engaged and I am surprised and very happy. Here is the problem - the bride's family (mother and stepfather) is unable to help financially and unwilling to help with planning. I'm not sure why her mother isn't interested in helping planning. My son is paying for the whole wedding which he is trying to keep at $10,000 or below.
I am getting mixed messages from them as to what they would like me to do. My son resists any suggestions from me as being "old fashioned" but his fiance sends me messages asking about dresses and thanking me for all my help. So far, all I've done is help them find a beach house for their wedding and reception. My son involved me in this and wanted my help.
I think I should just stay out of it unless they ask me for suggestions, but it is hard when his fiance does ask me things. She told me she feels awful because her family should be helping but they are not. I told her I would help in any way. I think this makes her feel even worse.