Poll: Do you wish you had a different engagement ring?

peaches85 · May 2010

I've seen several threads in the past few weeks from girls who are unhappy with their engagement rings for any number of reason (wrong style, too small, etc.). Just curious what you all think about this topic...

Laurms15 · May 2010

My e-ring is 40+ years old and it was his mother's ring. (his dad passed away and his mom wanted us to have it) so I love the sentiment behind it and its very classic. Solitate w/ baguettes on the side. It wouldn't have been the style I picked for myself not because I wasn't a fan of the style it just wasn't something I was looking for. I was thinking solitare with the 6 prong setting maybe with some very small diamonds on the band. However this ring means a lot to me and I was able to get a perfect band to go with it!

jrgoogrl · May 2010

I love my e-ring! I wouldn't change it for the world. At first when we talked about ring styles I wanted a princess cut. In the end I ended up with a round center stone with princess on the sides, and I just love it! FI did a fabulous job picking it out....all on his own!

raangoli · May 2010

I went special snowflake...mostly because the ring was a joint decision. I liked one style, FI liked the classic solitaire. I tried on what I thought would be the ring for me based on drooling over the picture for years (literally) and ... no magic. I tried on the solitaire and I loved the classic simplicity of it. I guess he knows me better than I know myself

peaches85 · May 2010

I'm SO HAPPY to see that everyone (so far) is satisfied with their rings! Reading what some of the OPs and follow-up posters say on the other boards makes me sick! Some of the girls sound so bratty and snotty and it makes me want to stick a fork in my eyes and tell their FI's to run for the hills!

Another thing I hate: When girls think that the only thing that matters is carat/size. I bet so many of the girls on those other boards (and in real life) who brag constantly about their big ass rocks don't realize that the other 3 C's of their diamonds are actually really poor quality. And, again, even that doesn't matter... all that matters is the sentiment behind the ring and the fact that it signifies your FI's love and commitment to you.

UGHHHH... sorry, just had to vent. A combination of reading what some girls write on TK and dealing with some coworkers in real life has been getting on my nerves.

Vent over. Thank you. :-)

chrissy31805 · May 2010

FI did a fantastic job picking out my ring. he wanted it to be a total surprise so we never went shopping for rings. i did give him two pictures of what i wanted and he stuck with the same style, but better than i could have imagined.

raangoli · May 2010

Peaches - I think we'd make great friends! I echo your sentiments exactly! What matters to me is that my ring is from my fiance and that it signifies the beginning of the rest of our lives together. Not that whether its "bling bling" or cost the size of a small country (it didn't, and that's fine with me!)

uppereastgirl · May 2010

It has meaning, so of course I'd never do anything to change it. But I think my tastes have changed a bit since I told him what I liked (a very, very long time before we even got engaged). I really do like it, but in retrospect I would have picked something different.

NJgurl19 · May 2010

Special Snowflake.
FI proposed without the ring he didn't out of the blue. Then we choose a ring together he was very particular lol and we sent the chosen ring to a jeweler to make it! I'm actually getting it this weekend it has taken him like 20 days! he said he is real busy it's okay we are getting a great deal! a 8k ring for like 5k.

Jaytee501 · May 2010

I love my e-ring.

We weren't officially "shopping" but when we'd been dating awile, DH pointed out some e-rings he liked in a store: incredibly busy, "blingy" settings. lol.

I said that's not my style; I've dreamed of an emerald cut solitaire since I 1st saw one almost 20 years ago! I find the cut mesmerizing on a good stone.

Two years later he proposed with an emerald cut solitaire.

mscutieri · May 2010

I love mine, but I picked it out so that's probably why!

Julephenia · May 2010

I told FI years and years ago that I don't like diamonds (like Anne of Green Gables). I even said I'd say no if it was a diamond. FI is a February baby and his birthstone is amethyst. I jumped for joy when I heard this... purple is rather my obsession... so I made it very clear that I wanted an engagement ring with his birthstone. (He's gotten me other jewelry with amethysts in it, too!)

He and his mom picked out the ring - it had a topaz or something in it first, but he had them replace it with a deep, dark amethyst. His mother insisted that FI pick a setting with two little framing diamonds, to make it look more like an engagement ring.

When I saw it, as he "proposed" (he hadn't gotten the words out yet), I said, "Ooooooh, my god, that is so PRETT... wait, WHAT? Is that what I think it is???" And then I devolved into yelling yes and hyperventilating.

In other words... I love it, I adore it, and I will wear it as long as it fits my finger.

smw42 · May 2010

Just putting my two cents in- it is possible that some girls on this board may have a larger ring that does have good qualities of the other 3 C's. Ring envy is the female version of penis envy!

jtheiss · May 2010

I have a friend who didn't like the solitare that her FI got her for an engagement ring and she made him take it back to get a three stone ring. Now that they're married, she doesn't even wear the engagement ring anymore, she only wears the band. I'm good friends with her FI too and he told me that it really hurt his feelings that she didn't like the e-ring. I can't say that I blame him, I thought it was a pretty bratty move on her part.

ahhndrea · May 2010

I know that shopping together before is not "traditional" but its a big investment for something you're going to wear for the rest of your life. I highly recommend going together to at least get on the same page.

My FI and I went together to look at rings since I had an idea of what I wanted, but needed to try some on just to be sure. We had a great time and learned a ton, we had our own private room to try on different styles and she even took out loose diamonds for us to check out. She sized my finger and we also had a good discussion about the 4cs and where you can adjust them to get the best value (I never wanted a big ring). After that session, I sent my FI an email with links to the three styles that I liked and why I liked each one of them. He was nervous that I wouldn't like what he picked out and I told him that "anything that means we're getting hitched I'll love". When he proposed a few months later (total surprise) I almost fell over when I saw the ring because he went back to the woman we met with originally and had a ring custom made that incorporated the things I liked on the 3 that I sent him. I wasn't expecting that at all, but was totally blown away. He did a great job.

kasabby · May 2010

I absolutely love my ring! And it means more that FI picked it out and made it himself. It has so much more meaning!

MelanieK2011 · May 2010

I love my engagement ring. FI picked out this gorgeous setting - it was a solitare with little diamonds set all the way around the band - but I kept losing the little diamonds (they were only set with 2 prongs apiece). We picked out a new setting that holds each diamond in with 4 prongs, so it's definitely more secure, but I really do miss my old setting. It was so gorgeous and delicate and he picked it out himself. While I do love the new setting, whenever I see pictures of the old one, I get a little bit sad.

Shand18 · May 2010

I love my ring. All I'd ever wanted was a round-cut solitare, and that's what he bought. I had mentioned once that I liked this twisted band I saw in a magazine ad, and he went out and found it....it's just perfect.

Heather822 · May 2010

FI did pick it and did an amazing job.... but he did always know that all I wanted was a simple solitaire. I love it... don't think I'd ever even upgrade to a bigger stone.

ffbride_0813 · May 2010

I love the style of my ring. Unfortunately my problem with it is the diamond chipped and I had to get a new ring so technically I have the same engagement ring style but its a new ring. Part of me is sad that FI took so long to pick out that specific ring and they just replaced it with another.

diamondx423 · May 2010

I have FIs grandmothers ring, and I'm not in love with it, mostly because his grandparents are divorced and it just seems like a bad vibe to me. We're going to get it reset soon, so I clicked "upgrade" even though its not a new diamond.

kwilkinson14 · May 2010

My FI and I did things a little bit differently. I picked out three different styles that I liked equally. I left the choice up to him b/c he did want it to be a suprise for me. He went with the one he liked best out of the three. I absolutely love it and wouldn't change it!!

NJMom050911 · May 2010

I LOVE my ring, FI picked it out all on his own and it really is perfect. It's a round floating center has pave on both the inside and outside and bouquets on each side. Very shiny and I get many compliments...

Geri510 · May 2010

I love my ring. I'm not a big diamond fan since it's my birth stone so I told him that I wanted a sapphire ring (blue being my favorite color), I even sent him pictures of ones that I liked about 1 week before he bought it. He actually told all of our friends that he was going to propose but was extremely nervous about picking a ring & was very happy that I sent him pictures. Funny, but I didn't even know he was planning on doing it in Dec.

So it's a princess cut sapphire with 4 white round sapphires on each side & then 3 round sapphires down the band -- it's gorgeous. I know it wasn't a lot of money compared to others but to him it was & it's something that he wanted to get me to start our lives together & I couldn't be happier.

demarcosjd · May 2010

I did special snowflake. I never really thought about rings or hinted towards things before we were engaged. When FI proposed I had to ask him what kind of diamond it was because I never heard of emerald cut lol. The original ring was a lower setting which was fine but FI picked out an amazing diamond that is almost flawless. Because of the lower setting, the light couldn't get under it and it just didn't have that appeal or give the diamond the sparkle and clarity it was meant to show. When picking out wedding rings we did get it reset to a higher setting and the ring is just amazing now. This a pic me trying it on with the wedding band.

felicia220 · May 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_new-jersey_poll-wish-different-engagement-ring?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:90Discussion:550667d5-77c0-4d23-9d63-caaf079490a2Post:b9f24073-daaf-4e7e-9d2f-91126731f23b">Re: Poll: Do you wish you had a different engagement ring?</a>:
[QUOTE]Just putting my two cents in- it is possible that some girls on this board may have a larger ring that does have good qualities of the other 3 C's. Ring envy is the female version of penis envy!
Posted by smw42[/QUOTE]

<div>hahaha thats a good point!</div><div>
</div><div>I love my ring, the only thing I told my FI was that I wanted a round diamond and it had to have 6 prongs (4 makes it look square plus more prongs=less likely to fall out)</div><div>He picked it out all on his own and it is gorgeous!</div><div>
</div><div>I do also understand that some men are just NOT good at picking out jewelry, so I could understand some girls not liking their ring. I am one of the lucky ones, my FI is awesome at picking out jewelry....thank God! </div>

mrsdevilguy · May 2010

I told FI when he brought up getting engaged that I wanted to be totally surprised because my ex made me pick my ring out. Months later I said that I saw something I liked and he dragged me into the store. I narrowed it down to about 4 choices and he picked from there even though he asked if there was one I liked better than the other. So I love my ring!

peaches85 · May 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_new-jersey_poll-wish-different-engagement-ring?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:90Discussion:550667d5-77c0-4d23-9d63-caaf079490a2Post:b9f24073-daaf-4e7e-9d2f-91126731f23b">Re: Poll: Do you wish you had a different engagement ring?</a>:
[QUOTE]Just putting my two cents in- it is possible that some girls on this board may have a larger ring that does have good qualities of the other 3 C's. Ring envy is the female version of penis envy!
Posted by smw42[/QUOTE]
I'm sure that's true. I never said that every girl with a big diamond has poor quality everything else. My point was that the girls who are constantly going on and on about how large their rings are so obnoxious and, in all honesty, who gives a rat's ass how big it is as long as it has special meaning to you. And I think it's really funny that a lot of <u>those</u> obnoxious girls (not ALL girls with big diamonds, obviously) who only see a ring's worth based on it's size may not even realize that their ring really isn't worth all that much anyway (I just think it's really funny and would be a total slap in the face for some of them).

If you knew some of the people I work with, you would understand exactly where I'm coming from with this.

cvl105 · May 2010

I LOVEEEE my ring, but I also picked it out! The top portion of the setting actually sits on a basket type thing that I just love. I love sticking my hand out the car window and seeing the sun shine through it. Silly, I know! haha

You can kinda see the under part of the setting here.

smw42 · May 2010

Chelsea I love your ring! My bm has a ritani ring that looks super similar to yours and I always loved hers. I think we need a "post pics of your ring" post.

reese511 · May 2010

my ring is PERFECT!!! FI did such an amazing job. he knew i wanted an asscher cut solitaire and thats just what he got me. he also asked me a long time ago if i perfered a larger diamond but not so great quality OR a smaller diamond that is really good quality. OVI i chose quality over size. even after a month...i still cant stop looking at it. SOOO sparkly....LOVE it.

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