Okay, so this may be a little long but I need help. My FH and I have been engaged since Oct. of 08. Our wedding will be on May 1st of this year.
My parents are very old school and wanted to pay for the wedding(we thank them every day for it and are the most greatful people in the world). We are chipping in about 25% of the wedding, but they are paying for most. That being said, I am having a bit of a problem with my FMIL and her husband(not my FH's father).
Both of our families are pretty large and it comes to about 130 people. We have a max of about 150 and can NOT go over that. As we were going over the guest list last night, I asked FH who some people were. He responded with "I have no idea..." Turns out, FMIL and her husband decided to add great aunts/uncles and 3rd & 4th cousins to the list without even asking us. So now we're up to about 160 people and have a total of 4 of *OUR* friends invited.
#1. It doesn't just stop there... My FH wants his mother and father introduced together at the reception because, well, their his parents. FMIL threw a fit because thats not her husband.
#2. We also wanted a very small receiving line(my parents, his parents, and us) and that's it. We do not have the church for a very long time, so we need to have that as small as possible. FMIL threw a fit because her husband is not being included with any of it.
#3. We put together a "rough" seating chart, and showed it to both of our families. FMIL screamed at me for not putting her twin sister at the parents table with them, and told me that she will NOT be sitting there without her sister and doesn't care if we don't like it.
BUT, when you're not helping plan(which they always say they're too busy) and/or not helping pay, do they REALLY have any say? HELP PLEASE!