What is the ettiquette on having sister-in-laws in the wedding party!!

Re: What is the ettiquette on having sister-in-laws in the wedding party!!

• aerinpegadrak member

  

  August 2012

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_what-is-the-ettiquette-on-having-sister-in-laws-in-the-wedding-party?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:37Discussion:cb6be956-8754-4cbf-8abd-0ff565dde733Post:b302f155-4964-4995-aeee-d8ee8c829eb5">What is the ettiquette on having sister-in-laws in the wedding party!!</a>:
  [QUOTE]I recently got engaged and am starting to finalize who I want in my wedding. I have 2 sister-in-laws one is very new to the family and the other one has been around for 18 years. I am not really close or really care for the newest sister-in-law and I really don't want her in my wedding party. <strong>If I ask her I have to exclude a childhood friend, who i am still to this day very close with. </strong> I am extreemly close to the SIL that has been around for ever, she is a sister to me.  How do I go about not asking the new one to be part of the wedding party with out causing anamosity with my brother, sister-in-law and myself?
  Posted by Lau726[/QUOTE]
  
  Why?  Sides don't have to be even.
  
  With family, the path of least drama is best; remember, your wedding is one day, you're going to be seeing this woman at every family get-together for the rest of your lives.  If family politics indicate that you need to include her or regret it, just ask her.  Although in my situation, I asked my brother to stand on my side and his wife attended as a guest, because it's more about relationships than about having the same naughty bits.

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• meganb1977 member

  

  August 2012

  There might be something else she could do (i.e. present a reading or take up the gifts at Mass) where she could share your day if you don't feel close enough to have her in the wedding party.  And being a guest is special and an honor!

  Whoever said it was supposed to be happily ever after is a big fat liar.

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