DJ- where do I have to seat them?

LILIPAD27 · July 2012

Hi, I'm having a small weddig of 80 and every seat counts. Do I have to, have to sit them at a table with Guest or can he eat his plates at the DJ booth?
Thanks
Lili

LeiselEB · July 2012

Ask what your DJ prefers. We sat our vendors at a separate table, but our DJ preferred to eat near his equipment. Just ask him.

LILIPAD27 · July 2012

I feel rude if he says at a table and then I don't. But if everybody more or less says no its not rude, then I prefer playing ignorant. I don't have room at the venue to add a small table

J&K10910 · July 2012

So you'd willfully be rude? That's cool.

Look, you're still over a month out--which I assume means you don't have all your RSVPs back yet. You're bound to get a no or two. Ask him what he prefers, and give him a seat at a table if he prefers. In my experience, most are fine eating a DJ booth--but do you really want that? It doesn't look very professional for the DJ to be up there chowing down.

And where are you going to feed your photog?

KMLara · July 2012

My DJ ate at her little DJ table with all her equipment on it - her choice. I think most DJs will prefer it that way anyway.

Loopyseven · July 2012

Our venue had a separate table set up in the back for vendors. Honestly - exactly when/where any of them ate the night of, I have no idea. Ask your venue how they normally handle feeding the vendors. As long as it's not sending them to McDonald's down the street, call it good.

LILIPAD27 · July 2012

I'll call it ignorantly rude lol. since I'm only inviting 80 people really its 40 with their spouses etc, everybody has RSVP yes. Except now not all of them are bring their extea guest so I have a few spares seats that I now can seat the video/photo. We are at a outdoor venue that has a patio table area right outside the tent. spoke to them about it and they said that was fine sitting out there. That was the plan until people RSVP minus their guest. So now with the total number, I'm just stuck with where to place the DJ. Thanks girls for all your opinions!

HockeyFan4 · July 2012

check with your DJ's contract. Then check with the venue to see what people normally do to sit their vendors (my venue told me they would set up small tables just outside of our room to feed the vendors). The venue probably does this often enough that they will have a solution.
After you talk with the venue, contact your DJ and see what their preference is.

These vendors are working for you, but you want them to be happy, so that they will do their best for you!

crash2729 · July 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_dj-where-do-i-have-to-seat-them?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:a83d9d9f-78d6-4f93-a44b-494fd77e028aPost:4484c000-d1f7-4b82-81ef-32b40109b19b">Re: DJ- where do I have to seat them?</a>:
[QUOTE]I feel rude if he says at a table and then I don't. But if everybody more or less says no its not rude, then I prefer playing ignorant. I don't have room at the venue to add a small table
Posted by LILIPAD27[/QUOTE]
If you asked him what he preferred and then went directly against what he asked for, that is willfully rude..not ignorantly rude.

jessicabessica · July 2012

Why can't you offer the DJ a seat in the patio area with the videographer and photographer? Ask him what he prefers, and if he wants a seat, rent one more chair.

J&K10910 · July 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_dj-where-do-i-have-to-seat-them?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:a83d9d9f-78d6-4f93-a44b-494fd77e028aPost:bbeea50e-b1ab-4632-a287-fee67385f433">Re: DJ- where do I have to seat them?</a>:
[QUOTE]Why can't you offer the DJ a seat in the patio area with the videographer and photographer? Ask him what he prefers, and if he wants a seat, rent one more chair.
Posted by jessicabessica[/QUOTE]

Yes, this. Put a small table on the patio for your vendors. It can be a place for them to rest their feet and put their stuff too.

I'm so confused as to how suddenly having MORE seats is causing a seating problem. Just stick with your original plan.

specialk84 · July 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_dj-where-do-i-have-to-seat-them?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:a83d9d9f-78d6-4f93-a44b-494fd77e028aPost:ac2efd59-9ed1-4bc1-a76c-facf93e517af">Re:DJ where do I have to seat them?</a>:
[QUOTE]I'll call it ignorantly rude lol. since I'm only inviting 80 people really its 40 with their spouses etc, everybody has RSVP yes. Except now not all of them are bring their extea guest so I have a few spares seats that I now can seat the video/photo. We are at a outdoor venue that has a patio table area right outside the tent. spoke to them about it and they said that was fine sitting out there. That was the plan until people RSVP minus their guest. So now with the total number, I'm just stuck with where to place the DJ. Thanks girls for all your opinions!
Posted by LILIPAD27[/QUOTE]

<div>I am totally lost, and I assure you, I am not stupid.</div>

LILIPAD27 · July 2012

Well I hope your not calling me stupid. I rather be ignorant and not ask him what he perfers so i can act IGNORANTLY RUDE, than to ask the DJ and AFTERWARDS not do what he said he prefers. Because that would be WILLFULLY RUDE. Thank you for explaining me what willfully rude is but I know the difference. I assure you I'm not 'stupid'. Secondly, I have more seats avaliable than orginally planned. So now I have enough seats for each of the photo/video guys but I am now short one seat for the DJ. Hence, my little situations now... Does this make sense now? I have always sucked at explaining things. Anyways I emailed the dude. Thanks ladies :

LILIPAD27 · July 2012

Holy fack, never mind people that I even asked. If you want to pick me apart to make yourselves feel better, go ahead. I sure am glad that I work with men instead of women.

LILIPAD27 · July 2012

Holy fk, never mind people that I even asked. If you want to pick me apart to make yourselves feel better, go ahead. I sure am glad that I work with men instead of women.

LILIPAD27 · July 2012

Go work with 150 men and you will be able to see the relevance when you have to deal with a group of women. Yes I'm willfully going to be rude when I act ignorantly rude. I'm choosing to be rude. Got it. Happy now?

pokepoke27 · July 2012

OP - no one here was rude to you. Why come to the etiquette board and ask for advice if you're just going to go ahead and do whatever the fluck you want anyways?

melb2013 · July 2012

Wow I found this all very confusing. I think you just need to fit one more chair at a table unless the DJ wants to eat with his equipment. It's just one chair. I personally find it rude to make vendors eat out back, even if this is what the venue normally does. It reminds me of making the "help" eat in the kitchen.

andrea2473 · July 2012

So you ended up with a couple extra seats so you can seat most of your vendors? What were you going to do if everyone had RSVP'd with a guest and you didn't have any extra seats? Vendor seating should have been taken into consideration from the beginning. Anyhoo, quit acting like a twit and pretending that you are being cutesy about it. Ask your DJ what he prefers and make it happen for crying out loud. FWIW, most DJs I've seen sit at their booth.

And I completely agree crfb. I hate it when women bash on other women as a group. Sure, I like hanging out with dudes, but that doesn't mean I have to hate on interacting with women. Usually the person with the problem about a group of people, is the problem themselves.

libby2483 · July 2012

I agree with melb. If your DJ prefers to eat at the table, just squeeze in one extra chair at that particular table. Our tables will range from 8 to 10 people, and will be set accordingly when I give the venue my seating chart. So there is definitely wiggle room, and adding a chair shouldn't be too much problem if he even wants to eat at the table.

LILIPAD27 · July 2012

Actually, alot of people, as it seems in the post previously, ask their vendors to eat outside or at a separate table so call me rude and call everybody else who does it rude, I don't really care. I can't just squeeze an extra chair as the capacity is at its limit (10 per table). It appears, DJs perfer to eat at their booth regardless....Is it really THAT rude for me to want them to eat at their booth if it's already the norm for DJ's to be doing that? What did I ask to begin with? Do I have to seat them at a table? The answers I got: sit him on a vendor's table & the other answers were pretty much DJs eat at their booth. Before I even started my invitation list, I made sure to ask the photo/video if they were cool sitting outside, they said they didn't care where. My one mistake was the DJ, I forgot to ask or just assumed that he would be eating at the booth until I realized my poorly-based assumption. Now I came here to clarify on what is rude and what is not rude. My explanation on my situation was crap and I got attacked because people didn't understand my situation. You called me stupid, I will call you back on that. You don't like how I say things? Here is a thought, don't bother replying back and then I will be left without an answer...then I will be back to original problem. But you did answer, so thank you helping me out even though you guys think I'm a twat. I'm acting cutsey so as to not have a biatch fight but why even bother trying with you girls as you all like to gang up on anybody who writes something that you didn't like how it was written (Wow, it's the internet, imagine not assuming people's explanations until they are better clarified). Yes, I, as well, don't like being stereotyped with other b.i.t. c.h.e.s but you women deserves to be stereotyped- Forum ganging up who b.i.t. c.h people out and assuming they're stupid because they didn't make themselves clear to begin with. Well played. Now....start attacking, I can take it.

LILIPAD27 · July 2012

[QUOTE]<strong> Anyways I emailed the dude. Thanks ladies :
Posted by LILIPAD27</strong>[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>Yes I did. Thank you for your 2 cents. </div><div>
</div><div>Oh and I do feel sorry for the husbands. But that is another can of worms that you women most likely can't handle. </div>

LILIPAD27 · July 2012

well you asked, I answered. I don't care regardless about being original or not. I don't need to feel validated to feel good. But I have been working with men for 14 years so I think I have a good opinion on that matter. Its not to insult you or anybody for that matter.

J&K10910 · July 2012

I just really, really think you'd be best off having a vendor table out on the patio. Your photog and videog don't need to sit with the guests as long as they have someone to sit. Giving them a seat and NOT giving your DJ a seat (whether or not he wants one) is weird. Just let them have that table and if they don't need it, that's fine, but it's there if they do.

specialk84 · July 2012

OP, I did not call you stupid. I merely clarified that I am not stupid, and I have no idea what you were saying in the post I quoted. Never did I insinuate that you were stupid.

So, unless someone else outright called you stupid, you just had a hissy fit for absofuckinlutely nothing. Congratulations.

andrea2473 · July 2012

I used the word twit, not twat.

Your defensive explanation contradicts your OP. You were trying to act like it was funny to not ask him so you could do what you want. Your wall of text freakout implied otherwise. I believe your OP.

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