So I have a dilema with one of my bridesmaids. She has an 18 year old daughter and my bridesmaid has asked me if she can come "hang out" with us on the day of the wedding. I hated to say no so I kind of said yes. As I got to thinking about it (and after I mentioned it to my MOH) I'm really not sure why her daughter needs to hang with us. All she's probably going to do is text message all day. I am paying for my bridesmaids to have their hair and makeup done (including my mom and grandmother), so I hate for her to watch all of us and her be excluded. I also worry about it being crowded in the bridal space at the venue. I know other family members are going to be coming in and out - there's no way to prevent that thanks to my mom and her weird wedding ways.
One more issue I have with my bridesmaid is that she said "oh, I don't know if my son will want to come or not". So when we started our guest list (before I asked her to be a bridesmaid), we only had her and her husband on the list. I never offered an invitation to her daughter or son. I'm concerned because he's a bit of a troublemaker (he's 20) and I don't want them to get into a family fight in the middle of my reception! Our guest list is also getting pretty tight especially since I can't get my mom to quit inviting people just by word of mouth before asking me first.
So, should I tell my bridesmaid that I thought it over and maybe it wouldn't be best for her daughter to come spend the day with us? Before this, she had planned on coming with her dad to the ceremony and reception.
I'd appreciate my fellow knotties advice :-)