So my Fiancé and I have put off our wedding year after year due to pretty much no budget for a wedding. I am about to just go down to the J.P. and forget about having wedding. His and my family has urged us not to do so because they want a wedding for us, and have told us they would pay for it. That would be great if I knew they had it to spare, but I know they don't. So, I was wondering if it would be rude to just put a small ceremony together with their help, and just go out to eat at a nice restaurant afterwards. If that isn't rude, then how do I nicely tell my other guest "hey we are just going to go eat, by the way you can pay for your own meal?"