My wedding is early in the day in June and when it came to my mother, she asked me what I wanted her to wear. I told her it didn't matter, but I did request complimentary colors. (My wedding is white and celery green, so my request was more along the lines of not anything extremely dark.)
My MIL to be did not ask me for any suggestions, and following what she has done in the past, my mother contacted her and shared what she purchased (after my MIL to be inquired with my mother).
Since she did not come to me, I didn't really worry thinking she would use my moms dress as an idea (why else would she ask my mom). I did hear her mention something about wearing black, so I mustered up the courage to request she not wear black. (I personally think she hates me, so the whole black thing was a fear of mine since it is commonly associated with mourning).
Anyway, she went and bought a black dress. I asked my fiance to say something (such as "mom, we asked you not to wear black"), and he did, but I guess she won that argument.
I am really upset, mostly because I feel she disrespected my one request. If she even called me and said "do you mind..." and explained her reasoning, I would have understood, but it was a dress she saw while we were out shopping and said "only if it weren't black" and then went back without me and bought it.
Am I wrong to be upset?