First time posting over here, thank you all to your helpful posts in this community.
My fiancee and I are planning on a casual wedding and reception next July. I have a lifelong best friend (no sisters) who had expressed interest in being a MOH early on in my engagement and I am honored she wants to be a part.
My fiancee has one older sister. They are not particularly close but still come together in times of sisterly need etc. And my fiancee wanted to ask her to be her MOH, so we'd each have one as our wedding party. My fiancee approached her sister to ask if she would be her MOH and she didn't get back to her. I asked her and she didn't get back to me. Finally, she got back to my fiancee and said she "wasn't comfortable" with the idea and was very flaky with it all. She isn't homophobic as she is queer herself, and the only thing we can think of is that she may be upset her younger sister is getting married first? (not sure, grabbing at straws here) I know that she doesn't mind me marrying her sister as she and I are friendly and normal with anything besides wedding talk.
Ok my point in this post: because my fiancees sister does not want to participate AT ALL, should we nix the idea of the wedding party entirely, or would having each of our respective best friends as MOHs be acceptable? I don't want people to wonder why my fiancees sister isn't participating at all