Ok. This may get long.
I have a sister who is 3 years older than me. She got married in 2008 to a man she dated for over 3 years before getting engaged. He is very nice and I am very happy for them. I did a LOT of her wedding planning, research, and basically everything she didn't want to do. I like to think I was a great MOH. And now it is her turn.
First of all, she was not overly supportive or excited when I got engaged. I am marrying fabulous man my parents and friends all love, but she likes my old, awful boyfriend better (he called me homely). Then, anytime I tried to bring up anything wedding, she got an attitude with me and just ignored me.
We have very different styles and tastes, and she is super not supportive of anything I want or do. She had a huge (325+ people) wedding that was very traditional and I thought fairly generic. She loved it, so I did too. Now, I am doing things my own way, and she cannot handle it. She thinks I am wasting money left and right on things (which I am not). We are having 200 people (which is an accomplishment for two people in the Greek system). I want cupcakes instead of a traditional cake. She says that is silly.
She doesn't understand why I would spend more than $600 on a dress and why I don't want strapless, white, and beaded (my dress is tea-length, lace, and fabulous). The last straw was when I showed her a picture of what my dress will look like (it is not yet made) and she said "Ick, that's not cute. It doesn't even look like a wedding dress."
What the heck am I supposed to do with a terrible, witchy, MOH?
My roommate/bridesmaid and FI say that I should just not include her in anything and leave her alone, but I know she will regret not being involved in the future.
My mom says that I should give her space and she will eventually come around. Well, I have been engaged 8 months and NOTHING.
HELP!!!