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Wedding Invitations & Paper

Starting to get worried!!

So, I booked my church a couple months ago and it holds 150 guests.  At that time, our guests list was at about 175. I figured 25 people not showing up was pretty safe.  The FI keeps adding people and we are now at around 225!!  That's 75 people that would have to not show up.  The church isn't air conditioned and it's going to be in early June.  We plan on having a very short ceremony because we are not religous and want to keep it short and sweet.  Our reception hall will easily accomodate 250.  How do I tell people who I think may not care as much about the ceremony that we won't be offended if they skip it?  I know that may seem rude, but the FI has many guy friends (many of them single) who I know won't care at all.  But, I still don't want to make it seem like other people are more important and they need to be there more than others.  Any ideas or advice?  The FI suggested putting something in the invitations but that seems tacky..  HELP!

Re: Starting to get worried!!

  • I wouldn't put anything on the invites or tell people to "skip" your ceremony...honestly, both options are rude and tacky.  You need to either narrow your guest list down or find a new venue.  The guest list should've probably been done first before your venue was chosen.

    ....Also, feel free to lurk around TK, you could learn a lot by reading previous threads.
  • To be completely honest, even if people RSVP yes for the wedding, many do not go to the ceremony but attend the reception, especially if they are at two different locations. This may be an unpopular opinion, because yes, you should absolutely plan for 100% attendance, but I think you might be okay. If FI's friends don't care about the ceremony, they will probably skip it without you asking them. Don't put anything in the invitations asking them to skip it. If you're really worried, you could possibly see if you could have folding chairs in the back or sides of the church- it's not the cutest look, but it could work.
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  • edited April 2010
    Can you have your ceremony at the reception venue? Or on the lawn outside the church?

    The church's cap is probably 150 not because they don't have enough chairs, but because the fire marshall says 150 is the legal capacity.
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  • There is no way to "politely" tell people not to come to the ceremony.

    You always plan on 100% attendance.  You cannot count on anyone declining.  People do get 95-100% of their people show up.  

    Since you aren't religious, you should just move the ceremony to the reception venue where everyone can fit.  
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