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Gift Question

athomforathomfor member
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Sorry if this has been asked before I looked but didn't see a related post.

In the past two months I've sent 2 gifts (one for a wedding of a coworker in early July, one for a new baby in early August). I have not received thank you cards for either. Is there a nice way to ask if the receipients received the packages? 

Both were sent through the US Postal Service so I don't have a way to track them.
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  • rlavachrlavach member
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    edited August 2012
    I think it’s kind of too soon to ask for either one of them. Although it’s ideal to send wedding TYs right away, most people IRL don’t do that. If its’ been 1.5 months, they probably haven’t sent out TYs yet. For the baby shower, you said that was at the beginning of the month. I’d think I’d wait until at least 1 month has past. I don’t know how well you know her, but what if she had the baby or something else happened. I personally wouldn’t ask the person, but someone close to them, like the mom.

    ETA: And if you dropped off the packages at USPS yourself, then there were ways you could’ve tracked it. Doesn’t help you for those cases, but just for future reference. 

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  • strlzfan11strlzfan11 member
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    I'd hold off a few more weeks before casually checking in to check.
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  • athomforathomfor member
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    I know there are ways to set up tracking- I just figured people knew to send thank you's promptly!
     
    I was thinking I'd wait untill 3 months out form the wedding to ask, but I have no idea what to say. I work re-motely for my company so I don't have casual conversations with this employee frequently but was invited (through an invite directed to the entire office- I know) to the wedding. I guess I'll just have to wait it out a bit.

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  • LiLe422LiLe422 member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_gift-question-9?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:9350f88c-bcca-48cb-b931-065a2f7014bbPost:150250b3-f037-4cf3-a998-829cb0ce4f13">Re: Gift Question</a>:
    [QUOTE]I know there are ways to set up tracking- <strong>I just figured people knew to send thank you's promptly! </strong>  I was thinking I'd wait untill 3 months out form the wedding to ask, but I have no idea what to say. I work re-motely for my company so I don't have casual conversations with this employee frequently but was invited (through an invite directed to the entire office- I know) to the wedding. I guess I'll just have to wait it out a bit.
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    Maybe in a perfect world.  What type of gifts did you give?  That info would help me to give you suggestions on what to say.
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  • HockeyFan4HockeyFan4 member
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    I'm still waiting on a ty note from a wedding in March...
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  • mrskristinycmrskristinyc member
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    I'm still waiting on a thank you note from March....2009. (Yeah, I wish I was making that up).
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  • arendivaarendiva member
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    Honestly I don't see what the big deal with thank you notes is. I plan to send them out because it's expected. But personally I'd rather thank guests verbally at the wedding or on the next occassion that I see them. I can honestly say that with all the weddings and showers I've been to and all the gifts I've given I have never once spent the following weeks stalking my mail box for thank you notes. When I have recieved them I've read through them and trashed them without another thought. But that's just me.....
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  • athomforathomfor member
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    It was towels for the wedding gift and some baby clothes for the baby gift (it wasn't a shower gift technically- just a gift as she is an old middle school friend who is gettin back on her feet after some unfortunate life happenings).

    @arendiva The reason I'm "stalking the mailbox" is because I do not talk to these people on a regular basis (as they live over 900 miles away from me) and I'm wanting some confirmation that they'd received the gifts. Even a FaceBook message would have sufficed to me! (not that I'm suggesting that for thank you's...just saying any acknowledgement that the package had been received would be good) Also, how do you thank someone for a gift they gave you at your wedding? Most likely you have no idea if a guest brought you anything (as they don't typically hand it to you, rather place on a gift table).
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