For months now my MOH has been saying she wants to throw me a shower and a b-party. I told her a dozen times that I would love it if she did, but she doesn't have to.
Now, its coming down to it and it is becoming more apparent that she expects me to pay for both, plan both, and do all the work for both.
I simply can't on all three counts. I don't have the extra money. Which I understand if she doesn't either, but it is a little to late to cancel on the shower. I am having three showers and I split the guests accordingly. The other two hosts already have their lists and haven invited people. I also don't have time. My BMs are being so flaky and refuse to help with anything so all these projects I started on their promises of help have me pretty tied up. Furthermore, for that is the same reason I can't do the work either. I don't mind helping, but I'm already stressed trying get ready for the wedding with literally no support.
I don't know what to say to her. I don't know how to handle it. She seems to think that I'm supposed to do all this too. I'm so near tears. I don't want to be rude, and I don't want her to feel like I'm taking advantage of her. I just can't handle anymore.