Who is generally in charge or planning for my bridal shower?
Ditto PP. Anyone but you. You shouldn't even be thinking about a shower. If someone wants to plan/host one for you they will do it. You may be asked to provide a guest list, but ultimately the final decision is on the host.
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In defense of Dee729 she never said she was asking for one. I have had many people already approach me with questions regarding our shower including my future mother in law, and my FI's stepmother. While I agree asking for one is tacky a bride may easily find herself in a spot where she's forced to provide some feedback and or limited coordination on behalf of her friends and family. It’s not wrong to want to know what the normal etiquette is. I sincerely hope every bride is lucky enough to have friends and family want to throw her a shower!! Happy Planning!