FMIL has asked for about 30 "extra" invitations for people who say they won't come but want an invitation anyway. My opinion is that it doesn't matter what someone says, once they receive an invitation there's nothing to stop them from coming. Not only can I not afford to pay for them, but they are not her close friends and have never even met FI or me; this is a bad way of putting it, but they are not people who "deserve" an invite. Also, they asked for them. Rude.
So, rather than upsetting a woman whom I love dearly by just telling her "no," I am thinking about letting her have wedding announcements after the fact for these people. That way they get the notice of our wedding that they wanted. But I'm not entirely sure what the etiquette of that is...it might actually be incredibly rude, I really have no idea. Opinions?