My mom's friend is throwing us a shower in CA when we're home (we live in DC) in February, which is exciting and fun even though it's so far from the wedding. We probably won't be home again until August, though, so there weren't other options. My FI's parents are even flying from NY to CA for it, which will be great since they've only ever met my mom - no one else in my family.
Buuuut now I'm finding out that my mom's friend has invited her kids (who are my age, but my parents and I have met them maybe 3-4 times in my entire life) and other members of her family that I've never met. Her husband is our officiant, so I feel bad saying, "but but but they're not invited to the wedding!" Especially so far in advance since I obviously haven't sent out invitations yet. They're sort of like second parents to me, which makes it even more awkward that I just simply do not know their children. While I've always been content to go hang out with my mom and her friends, I guess they haven't.
I just feel so weird, I don't want people that barely know me to feel obligated to get us gifts! (To which she responds, "Honey, the point of a shower is to get you as many gifts as we possibly can!") My mom says she's the hostess, and I can't have a say in who's invited, but that just seems odd to me. Alas.
Do I just suck it up and invite these people she's inviting to the shower to our wedding? Do I just pass it off as a faux pas on her part? It's too late to decline the shower since flights are booked, etc.
Any words of wisdom? Thanks in advance.
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