Sorry for my colorful choice of subject. This one is going to be long, ladies.
Now, before I get flamed, we didn't invite anyone to our wedding expecting anything. We just wanted everyone to come and have a good time.
That said, I'm sitting down to compile my list for thank you notes, and looking at it altogether in the spreadsheet - I'm just kind of taken aback at the number of guests who didn't so much as give a card. Seriously? You can get them at gas stations for .99 cents.
I don't want to sound ungrateful - most of our guests were generous and I was especially touched by those that donated to charity on our behalf. And I know people are going to likely say "you don't know their circumstances" - but I'm looking at the list, and trust me, I do know their circumstances (either because they are family or blabber mouths). Our wealthiest guests are the ones who didn't even bring a card. I'm talking millionaires here, or at the very least multiple-hundred-thousand-ares. But then some of our friends, who I know are struggling - trying to buy a house, start a family or have a wedding of their own - gave some of the largest cash gifts.
There's just no rhyme or reason, you know? I really, really don't want to sound like a whiney little b*tch here - I'm just perplexed. I know wedding gifts are obligatory, not mandatory - I don't even want a gift - but could you at least write "Congratulations!" on a napkin, because really that would make me happy.
I'm still going to send everyone who attended thank you cards (except for my deadbeat family members who didn't even bother to RSVP - that includes my older brother, boo!). I know one of my aunts is under the false assumption that she has up to a year to buy a gift, but when I tried to politely correct her, I got verbally slapped. Maybe the rest of my guests are under that impression as well?
I know we've talked about this on the board before - I guess it's just my turn to complain! Man, I don't even show up to someone's house without something...let alone a wedding...