Is this crazy?!??!

VirgoBella · February 2012

I'm attending a wedding in a couple months. The bride and groom to-be decided that guests that have a fiance, boyfriend/girlfriend, or dating must pay for their date's meal themselves. If the guests do not pay for their date's food, then the date has to stay home. Yikes. I never heard this before - so awful!

ChristineNB · February 2012

Hmm I'm not planning on allowing guests to bring dates. However, any of my guests that are in relationships, dating, married, etc will be allowed to bring their +1's. Basically those that are single can't bring dates. I get that guests can be expensive, but I am not sure I would actually charge people for their dates, that sounds a little rude.

Hilraythebride · February 2012

Yes, tacky!! We are letting anyone who has a bf/gf, or a SO bring them. We figure this way they are more likely to come if they can bring someone to enjoy the evening with.

If they can't afford to properly host people they should scale down and pay for everyone's food!!!!

NcsuPsych · February 2012

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[QUOTE]I'm attending a wedding next month. The bride and groom to-be decided that guests that have a boyfriend/girlfriend or fiance must pay for their date's meal themselves. If the guests do not pay for their date's food, then the date has to stay home. Yikes. I never heard of this before -
Posted by VirgoBella[/QUOTE]

Yup, I'd send a card and wish them well, but decline the wedding invitation. That's obnoxiously rude and if I ever was told something like that, you'd have to crank my jaw back off the floor.

mbody · February 2012

Ohhh Myyyy Gooooood. Just when you think you've heard and seen it all... Nope! There is no way in HAIL I'd be attending this wedding. No. Way. No. How.

HobokensFury · February 2012

Wow that's so tacky. I would RSVP no on principle.

Nina0528 · February 2012

I would not be attending that wedding. I can't imagine anyone attending a wedding like that.

cwaggoner07 · February 2012

Ugh. How embarassing.

Gabrielle76 · February 2012

That's one of the tackiest things I've ever heard.

NcsuPsych · February 2012

The more I think about this situation. . the more I'm convinced that that bride a passenger on the crazy train. . .

AMYM312 · February 2012

Umm no thank you! I would love to know how they worded this on the invites?

JadziaDax · February 2012

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[QUOTE]The more I think about this situation. . the more I'm convinced that that bride a passenger on the crazy train. . .
Posted by NcsuPsych[/QUOTE]

<div>Haha this is pretty bad. I would definitely RSVP no. You would think she has a friend or relative who would tell her "don't do this!"</div>

kmmssg · February 2012

Any bets on the RSVP decline rate on this wedding? I would NOT attend under their truly atrocious conditions. I wonder if she is a knottie?

AdeleDazeem · February 2012

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[QUOTE]Hmm I'm not planning on allowing guests to bring dates. However, any of my guests that are in relationships, dating, married, etc will be allowed to bring their +1's. Basically those that are single can't bring dates. I get that guests can be expensive, but I am not sure I would actually charge people for their dates, that sounds a little rude.
Posted by ChristineNB[/QUOTE]

Oh, it's so much more than "a little rude." When you plan an event, you plan for +1s of your guests if they are in a relationship (which you are doing so it's fine) so the audacity of this bride is really off the charts.

Rachel405 · February 2012

Haha- wow. "Yes I'm sending back my RSVP card, my chicken or steak selection card, and my check for $60 for my date" LOL

Madisonpenny · February 2012

Wow, thats horrible. If you can't afford to pay for everyones +1's then trim your guestlist and make it more intimate so those who are closer to you can bring their S/O.

chelseamb11 · February 2012

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[QUOTE]I'm attending a wedding in a couple months. The bride and groom to-be decided that guests that have a fiance, boyfriend/girlfriend, or dating must pay for their date's meal themselves. If the guests do not pay for their date's food, then the date has to stay home. Yikes. I never heard this before - so awful!
Posted by VirgoBella[/QUOTE]

That is all kinds of effed up.
I like your wedding dress though. Gorgeous!

em01092 · February 2012

What? This is nuts. Paying for your date's food?!

Now, if they said someone must be married/engaged in order for SO to be invited period, I'd be less surprised, but that is still wrong. If a guest considers themselves in a relationship, then that person should be invited with their SO. Not up to B&G to judge the "seriousness."

littleshrink · February 2012

Please tell me this is a joke. Or at the very least your RSVP was a no....

morals anyone?

chrryblndchick · February 2012

So only the people who are actually married count? That's just awful. I would not attend and I would only send a card with nothing inside.

You could be really passive aggressie and go, pay for the meal and then don't buy them gift because you spent their gift money on your date's dinner....

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