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Registry Info

Okay, to start, I've been lurking enough to know that including registry information with the invitation is a big no-no.

Last weekend, we were with some out-of-town friends and ended up talking about how the wedding planning was going. They're all invited, and they were asking tons of questions.  They brought up where we were registered, and informed us that we HAVE to include something about where we are registered so that they will know where to go. They insisted that they wouldn't go online to look up where we are registered.  Apparently verbally telling them isn't good enough either since they will probably forget between now and September.

Now I'm stuck.  I wasn't going to include registry information at all, but now I'm feeling like I should include registry cards ONLY in the invites of these people. Most of the rest of the guest list is immediate family or coworkers of parents, so word-of-mouth would be very easy.  However, we hardly see this one group of friends so word-of-mouth would be very difficult and apparently searching online is also too difficult.

Should I cave in and give them the rude little card that says where we are registered, or let them figure it out on their own like everyone else?

Thanks ladies :-)

Re: Registry Info

  • I guess you could send just these people the card.  I wouldn't though.

    But definitely don't send them to everyone, you'll mostly end up offending people who have common sense.

    I don't see what's so hard about searching at the common registry stores online.
  • I wouldn't do it.  "Stupidity of others" is not a defense for rudeness on your own part.
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  • Don't send them. I asked my mother not to include registry information on my shower invitations. She said it was just convenient but I told her I was uncomfortable with it. She agrees with me that if people want to purchase a gift off of my registry then they will ask where I am registered. And if they can not search the website for my registry without the little card, then I don't see them being able to use the internet anyways.
  • No. Between now and then you could "forget."

    What's the worst that can happen? They DO go online and look it up in 3 seconds? They give you a cash gift? They buy something random because that's easier than looking up your registry in 3 seconds? Don't worry about it - they'll get over it.
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  • We are putting a business sized card with our wedding website on it. The website has information on hotels, ceremony/reception info, and registry information. That is a suggestion but I wouldn't put anything about the registry in the actual invitation.
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  • Put it on your website

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  • We put ours on our website - one woman we invited called and asked that by not putting it on our invitations, is that my clever way of saying we want cash? I politely told her that we were registered and that all the information is on our website (which was included on our invitations).  Funny that some people still don't know the etiqutte here. 
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