I'm a bridesmaid in a college friend's wedding this summer. One of the other bridesmaids, who I'll call Lucy, is a childhood friend of the bride. Lucy and the bride lived next door to each other growing up and are still very close. Lucy was raised by her grandparents, and they are invited to the wedding, too.
For the past year, Lucy has been dating a guy who her grandparents don't approve of. According to Lucy, they don't like him because he doesn't have a job and still lives with his parents. However, Lucy also admitted her grandparents view him as very controlling/dominating, which she swears “is totally not true.” I've never met the guy so I can't say what he's really like.
Lucy confided in me recently that she's thinking about asking the bride to revoke her grandparents' wedding invitation. Her reasoning is that she wants to bring her boyfriend to the wedding, but her grandparents despise him so much, Lucy and her BF wouldn't be able to enjoy themselves if her grandparents are there too.
I told Lucy I thought this was a bad idea--who would want to put the bride (her best friend!) in that kind of position? Plus the wedding is going to be large, almost 300 guests. I told Lucy that she and her BF could easily avoid being around her grandparents, but that didn't sway her. I also suggested she just come solo to avoid the drama, but she said no, she really wants to bring BF.
Yikes. I don't want to get too involved in this situation (it's really none of my business, after all), but is there any other advice I could give Lucy to keep her from talking to the bride? I think it's a horrible idea to tell a bride to "uninvite" someone from their wedding, unless there is some extreme reason like the person being abusive, etc.