Wishing well and not gifts!

katelin8 · March 2010

We are having a big wedding and we have everything we need. We decided that we want to do a wishing well instead of gifts and not sure how we put this info on the invitations. Some people don't even know what the wishing well is. How do I put this into words for the invitations so that everyon e knows that a wishing well is for money to help the new couple get started or to help send them on their honeymoon? Any Suggestions?

4MandaBelle · March 2010

You don't. You don't ask for gifts, you don't ask for money. You can have a wishing well or card box at the reception, but you dont' mention it, you don't point it out in the middle of your speech. If people want to give you money, they will. If people want to give you gifts, they will. Which btw - if you don't register for SOME stuff (consider upgrading or something), you risk getting the crazy pot holders from Aunt Betty.

Your guests are not required to bring you gifts, and etiquette wise... you don't get to ask for them in any way, shape, or form.

As my preschooler says "you get what you get and you don't throw a fit!"

TurtlesAllTheWayDown · March 2010

You cannot demand what kind of gifts people give you. Some prefer to give boxed gifts because they see them as more personal.

Either don't register or do a small registry of upgrades. Be gracious and send prompt thank yous for whatever you get.

You cannot mention anything about gifts anywhere on the invitation or in the invitation envelope, but if someone asks it is perfectly fine to say, "Oh, we really don't need anything. We'd just love for you to come celebrate. What's that? You insist? Well, we have a very small registry at Crate and Barrel, but we're also saving up for a honeymoon/new car/downpayment on a house/renovations."

TurtlesAllTheWayDown · March 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_invites-paper_wishing-well-not-gifts?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:cd062f89-8272-496a-b0ab-225e1f87acecDiscussion:56590659-994f-470d-8828-03c4827ddb1bPost:df0b1ecd-b162-460f-a1e8-a2374c28e6b3">Wishing well and not gifts!</a>:
[QUOTE]We are having a big wedding and we have everything we need. We decided that we want to do a wishing well instead of gifts and not sure how we put this info on the invitations. Some people don't even know what the wishing well is. How do I put this into words for the invitations so that everyon e knows that a wishing well is for money to help the new couple get started or to help send them on their honeymoon? Any Suggestions?
Posted by katelin8[/QUOTE]

Mrs.B.Rad · March 2010

Just as an FYI to everyone, I'm not sure if this person is real or just trying to cause drama. This post is on our Month board, her local, and the registering board.

lisarose7 · April 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_invites-paper_wishing-well-not-gifts?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:cd062f89-8272-496a-b0ab-225e1f87acecDiscussion:56590659-994f-470d-8828-03c4827ddb1bPost:cfb94005-b63f-4ad0-8cd6-e054184213a8">Re: Wishing well and not gifts!</a>:
[QUOTE]Just as an FYI to everyone, I'm not sure if this person is real or just trying to cause drama. This post is on our Month board, her local, and the registering board.
Posted by Mrs.B.Rad[/QUOTE]

Probably going on multiple boards in search of someone who'll tell her it's not rude.

nhelene · April 2010

If it's not real, someone's been sitting on a fake account for 11 months.

aerinpegadrak · April 2010

I believe someone else posed that the definition of insanity is doing the same thing repeatedly and expecting different results...

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