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co worker conundrum

JillyM79JillyM79
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My wedding is June 18th, so yes I have a little time to think about this but...

I teach in a fairly small school & this is my 10th year there. Is there an easy way to narrow down gauging who should be at my wedding? Yes of course my close friends but I pretty much talk to everyone else at work too. I don't want them to be mad if they aren't invited (especially if they expect to be invited), but seriously I couldn't afford EVERYONE.

Also - what do you think the rule of thumb is for "+1s" if there will be a large group of coworkers? Obviously the married ones get the Mr & Mrs but etiquette on the rest of the bunch? There are some people whom I know their SOs but unsure if others are dating.

Thoughts?

Thanks bunches in advance!
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Re: co worker conundrum

  • apple_greenapple_green member
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    If you don't want to invite everyone, just invite those that you hang out with outside of work... those who you'd feel comfortable calling and inviting to dinner.

    As for +1s, I prefer giving everyone a guest. However, not everyone does - at least give a +1 to the ones who are in a relationship.
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  • quotequeenquotequeen member
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    If they are in a serious relationship, their SO needs to be invited (by name, not as a plus 1).  If you don't know them well enough to know whether they are in a relationship, that's probably a good sign that those folks don't need to be invited.
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  • akhensley81akhensley81 member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_co-worker-conundrum?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:e553c5c0-5d68-4c00-99f8-84fa9d0e1fe3Post:5683f8f5-35b7-4607-a52c-17e5c366de50">Re: co worker conundrum</a>:
    [QUOTE]<strong>If you don't want to invite everyone, just invite those that you hang out with outside of work... those who you'd feel comfortable calling and inviting to dinner. </strong>As for +1s, I prefer giving everyone a guest. However, not everyone does - at least give a +1 to the ones who are in a relationship.
    Posted by apple_green[/QUOTE]

    This.

    But also make a conscious effort not to talk about the wedding at work, especially to people who you know you are not planning to invite. It's a great way to mislead people and end up with hurt feelings, if you're not planning to invite everyone.

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  • JillyM79JillyM79
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    Thanks, everyone!
     I'm especially in total agreement with keeping wedding talk at a minimum. We had a back to school luncheon & people I was inviting were asking me about wedding plans BUT also at the table were those I had no intention of being there so I just kept the answer to "good" "yes it's approaching quickly" as well as "it's coming along" and that's about it. I didn't want to talk about it and perhaps lead on those that might think they'd be there.
    It's a good point to make about not knowing if they're in a serious relationship, perhaps they shouldn't be there at all (i.e. not as close with them).
    I'll see how this work year goes. There's a lot of work to do =) Thanks again.
    Good luck ,everyone!
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