Hi everyone, I would really appreciate an outside perspective on this issue.
In college I became close to a girl, we'll call her Jane. We lived together, went out all the time, shared great times, our ambitions, and opinions. A few years have passed since graduation. We still live in the same city and after graduation we used to go out every now and then. I would not bring FI along as I thought it was important to have some girl time bonding. She constantly cancelled on me, but then we'd go out once a month or so. After I bcame engaged I wanted to ask Jane to be in my bridal party. We made plans. She cancelled. We made plans again. She cancelled again. She essentially completely blew me off. So I did not ask her to be a part of the brida party since she never gave me a chance to do so.
I still sent her an invitation to the wedding since we used to be close. The RSVP deadline passed a week ago. I sent her a polite e-mail and she didn't respond. Three days later I sent her a polite text asking about whether she was coming and she didn't respond. To put this in context, this is a girl who lives on her phone. She updates her facebook status a few times every day, and has done so since I have sent her the messages. I know she is in touch with gmail and her phone. The day I texted her she posted this very cynical article to her facebook wall:
I am pretty sour on the whole situation at this point. She has been a bad friend in the past (putting me in bad situations, etc.) and this is the proverbial "straw that broke the camel's back." I kind of want to un-invite her but I think that would be rude and I would want to take the higher road. From a practical standpoint, I just would like her to RSVP. What would everyone do?