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Hurt and upset

I am still good friends with my ex bf who I was with for 4 years, and was like a stepdad to my 12 yr old DD. He and his gf moved to Alaska last year, and decided a few months ago to move back. About a month ago he told me that they would be here for the wedding, Aug 11th. I was really happy they would be able to make it, mostly for my DD who hasn't seen them in a year and was really excited they were coming.

Well, they are driving through Canada right now, and his gf just posted on Facebook that they were going to spend one night here, this Saturday, and then drive down to Fresno to visit his grandparents until the 15th. My dd goes back to her dad's house in another state right after the wedding, so that means she won't get to see them until Xmas now. She is really upset, and so am I. We only were able to invite 35 people, and there were many people I wanted to invite and couldn't. Nothing can be done now. I just needed to vent because this really sucks.

Re: Hurt and upset

  • I'm sorry. :( Have you talked to them about it? Perhaps she got the dates mixed up. Maybe she meant next Saturday?
  • Are you sure they're not still planning on attending?  I'd contact him to double check. 

    If they're blowing it off after they've RSVPed yes, then yeah, that definitely sucks.

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  • I agree that it is frustrating when people RSVP and then change their minds.  We had a few no shows at our wedding too.  Have you called him up to ask him if he is still planning on coming?  If not, can you plan another time for your daughter to get together with him before Christmas?  I know that won't help the wedding situation but then at least she would get to see him.
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  • edited August 2012
    so, you're upset about something that was posted on FB by the girlfriend of your ex bf? Have you even spoken to the ex bf?
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  • I texted him to ask him about it. He hasn't responded. DD won't be back here at all until Xmas eve, so there's no way she will get to see him until she comes back.
  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_hurt-and-upset?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:ac1dadda-3954-405c-b0ea-28073e9fce8cPost:1a0eeab2-af4f-4675-b0d2-be53a77d0b48">Re:Hurt and upset</a>:
    [QUOTE]I texted him to ask him about it. He hasn't responded. DD won't be back here at all until Xmas eve, so there's no way she will get to see him until she comes back.
    Posted by hamsterdance[/QUOTE]

    <div>Well, just sit tight, maybe it's just a miscommunication.</div>
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  • hamsterdancehamsterdance member
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    edited August 2012
    I hope so but I kinda doubt it. This would not be the first time he's blown us off without even bothering to tell me. What can I say? There's a reason he's my ex. DD really misses him though. Edited to add: we are in Seattle. Nowhere near Fresno.
  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_hurt-and-upset?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:ac1dadda-3954-405c-b0ea-28073e9fce8cPost:123741d1-44ab-4688-8260-3bd271742f4a">Re: Hurt and upset</a>:
    [QUOTE]Witsy <3!
    Posted by ski2play[/QUOTE]



    :-) beautiful picture ski!
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