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My Helper?

rdealingrdealing
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Isn't there a title for the friend you choose to run all over for you on your wedding day?
The bridesmaids and matron are helping you get ready but there is someone that does the misc stuff.
Not the wedding planner because she is getting the setup taken care of.
Is there such thing? I heard someone call it a "hot mess" but I'm not sure if thats it?? Please help?
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    FluffernutFluffernut
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    It's called a Personal Attendant or Bridal Attendant, but is usually frowned upon on these boards.
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    mdeidremdeidre
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    I think this is a largely made up title, something new to this era, not anything official.
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    rebarobert2012rebarobert2012
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    I have never heard of this, but I don't think it is something you should ask a friend to do.  Your friends are guests at your wedding and shouldn't be asked to *work* at your wedding.  If you want someone to do this, I think that you should hire someone.  If you already have a hired wedding planner and you don't feel they would be able to handle it, maybe you need to hire another one.

    I'm sorry if I'm off base with this, but I have honestly never heard of asking a friend to be a helper and having them run all over for you on your wedding day.

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    MrsKathyCMrsKathyC
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    Day of coordinator?  Someone you would need to hire.
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    mbodymbody
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    This can't be for serious. Please tell me it's not.
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_my-helper?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:acea1e59-efed-4154-9501-dff5c5f6e235Post:5605a688-ed73-474a-9eca-772066f15226">Re: My Helper?</a>:
    [QUOTE]Day of coordinator?  Someone you would need to hire.
    Posted by MrsKathyC[/QUOTE]
    Yep

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    FluffernutFluffernut
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    mbody...that's what I was thinking right after I posted!  Especially with a wedding two days away?
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_my-helper?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:37Discussion:acea1e59-efed-4154-9501-dff5c5f6e235Post:523156f4-d560-467b-b5ad-872963d39bcc">My Helper?</a>:
    [QUOTE]Isn't there a title for the friend you choose to run all over for you on your wedding day? The bridesmaids and matron are helping you get ready but there is someone that does the misc stuff. Not the wedding planner because she is getting the setup taken care of. Is there such thing? I heard someone call it a "hot mess" but I'm not sure if thats it?? Please help?
    Posted by rdealing[/QUOTE]

    No, b/c you shouldn't have a friend running around for you on your wedding day.

    There is no way this can be real....

     

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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_my-helper?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:37Discussion:acea1e59-efed-4154-9501-dff5c5f6e235Post:52599a53-7787-426a-b481-27928c9cf713">Re: My Helper?</a>:
    [QUOTE]It's called a Personal Attendant or Bridal Attendant, but is usually frowned upon on these boards.
    Posted by Fluffernut[/QUOTE]

    OP, this is the correct answer to your question, but

    a) you don't actually need one; there's much less running around than you're thinking, and

    b) unless a friend who you completely trust <em>volunteers, unasked,</em> to do this, please don't ask any of your guests to act as your servant.
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    It's called "Wedding Planner" and you pay her.
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    direy25direy25 member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_my-helper?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:37Discussion:acea1e59-efed-4154-9501-dff5c5f6e235Post:523156f4-d560-467b-b5ad-872963d39bcc">My Helper?</a>:
    [QUOTE]Isn't there a title for the friend you choose to run all over for you on your wedding day? The bridesmaids and matron are helping you get ready but there is someone that does the misc stuff. Not the wedding planner because she is getting the setup taken care of. Is there such thing? <strong>I heard someone call it a "hot mess" but I'm not sure if thats it??</strong> Please help?
    Posted by rdealing[/QUOTE]
    No, that's the name of the bride who is expecting her friend to be running all over for her.
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    mbcdefgmbcdefg member
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    How complicated is your wedding that you're going to need people running around doing errands for you?

    All I had to ask someone to do on the wedding day was to please put my tote bag into the limo for me. My brother's girlfriend was hanging out with us as I got ready with the bridesmaids and she kindly took two minutes to do that for me.

    Seriously. What "misc. stuff" do you anticipate needing a helper for?
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_my-helper?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:acea1e59-efed-4154-9501-dff5c5f6e235Post:523156f4-d560-467b-b5ad-872963d39bcc">My Helper?</a>:
    [QUOTE]Isn't there a title for the <u><strong>friend <em>you</em> choose to run all over for <em>you</em> on <em>your</em> wedding day</strong></u>? The bridesmaids and matron are helping you get ready but there is someone that does the misc stuff. Not the wedding planner because she is getting the setup taken care of. Is there such thing? I heard someone call it a "hot mess" but I'm not sure if thats it?? Please help?
    Posted by rdealing[/QUOTE]

    Wow.

    YOU are an awesome friend.
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    misssunshine17misssunshine17 member
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    it's called being someones biitch and if you want one, you pay for it. That's a really sucky thing to think is an honor for someone you call a friend. 
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    HeathenSwanHeathenSwan member
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    Slave. Runner-up. Lackey. That's what I'd feel like, at least.

    You should hire someone to do it if you want someone to be at your beck and call. A day of coordinator, or maybe a personal concierge. Just don't ask one of your friends to do it. It's a sh*t job, and not something that is particularly nice to a friend.
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