Need patience.....Help!

PhillyGal34 · January 2010

I am in the process of losing a few pounds for the wedding ... between 10-20 depending on how I look along the way, I'm not setting a number on it. I am already at a healthy weight (the top of the WW range for my height) I am doing WW and working out and have been losing weight... my problem is mental. I cannot stop picturing myself in my dress at the weight I am now and feeling like no matter what I will look the same. I KNOW this is not true and I know I have about 9 months to lose those pounds and shape up but I cannot stop these "I need to have it lost by now" thoughts. I definitely want to be at my wedding weight by September when I go for my fittings (so I really have about 7 months) but that is still a TON of time! I mean if I lose 2 pounds a month I will be there... and I can lose more than that. Is anyone else feeling this way? I generally have a very healthy attitude about weight and weight loss... but for some reason (maybe because the wedding is such a huge part of my life right now) this is gnawing at me! Any input???

FavoriteOne · January 2010

I lost 20 lbs on WW in 2 1/2 months, but I stuck to the plan pretty religiously the whole time. I've only had 2 gains (of .2 lbs each time) since starting in September. You can totally do it.

PhillyGal34 · January 2010

so far (since 10/09) I've lost almost 30 pounds on WW... i stopped doing it last summer because i got lazy and regained some but since lost that weight... I know I can do it which is the weird part... it's the mental image of myself that i can't get past. I want to be that "skinny" (but healthy) bride and I guess I can't see myself there. everyone else keeps telling me I look great in my dress (it fits already) but i have pictures and definitely need to tone my back (its a low dress).... i guess the real issue is that I need to get there to believe it... does that make sense? I should be able to lose 10 pounds in two months if I follow the plan (which i have been).... maybe i just need to set small goals along the way??? I have my dress already so maybe when I lose 10 pounds I can try it one and see how I feel??? I don't know why this is bugging me so much!

swim1011 · January 2010

Okay, you need to step back and take a deep breath. You've already lost 30 lbs- that's fantastic! You're focusing way too much on numbers, and that's not a healthy way to do this.

How you look in your dress is much more important- and I would believe everyone who is already telling you that you look great. It sounds like your brain just hasn't caught up with your body yet- the 'my body is awesome, but my mentality is that I'm still overweight' deal. Take a look back at some of your pictures from when you were heavier, and appreciate just how much you've changed. Nothing made me appreciate the body I had 20 lbs ago like gaining iback what I had worked so hard to lose.

Focus on smaller goals, like 2 lb increments. Every pound is a success, but even if you don't lose those 10-20lbs in 9 months, it will not ruin your wedding day. you will still be beautiful, so stop giving yourself something to stress over (because you only get more as the wedding gets closer!).

PhillyGal34 · January 2010

weird thing is that it's honestly not the number... its that in my head i feel like no matter how much weight i lose i will be "chubby" .... my dress does look great on me but of course there are areas of improvement. i dont know why i cant get past the "need it now" mentality... i've never had this before! maybe because i had SO much to lose before and now I am close to done with the losing portion and that scares me?? i dont know! sorry for the rambling... i just needed to vent ... i appreciate your input!

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