So my BF is getting married in May and I am a very happy maid. She's totally not a bridezilla, we all got to pick our style of dress and shoes, no crazy chores, everything's good... The only thing I'm slightly miffed about is the head table...
I've been with my boyfriend for over a year, she's met him, she knows there's a very good chance that someday he'll be the guy I marry. So the other day I got a text from her asking where he'd want to sit, with my parents or with people his age. I asked wouldn't he be sitting with me? Evidently since I'm at the head table this is a no-go. I've been a wedding buff my whole life, so I know that it is considered ok (depending on who you ask) to have SOs at the head table. I mentioned this to her sister today, the other BM, and she mentioned that if not all the attendants had SOs, this would look awkward. Of course, they want to go with a boys side/girls side, which is not necessarily traditional, and makes the whole SO thing look more awkward. All of this harkens back to the "uneven side-gasp!" thing we see on the boards all the time.
Here's how I feel about it: SOs that are long term, ie. spouses, fiancés, live-in partners, and SOs of more than a year should get to sit with their partners. Weddings are romantic and couples want to spend this time together, not at nearby-but-separate tables. This is why I am in favor of having either a mixed head table or round tables for the BMs, GMs, and their SOs or dates, and a sweetheart table for the newlyweds. This is what I will be doing. However, I know this is not my wedding, there's nothing I can really do about this particular case. I will not be complaining to the bride, I don't think it would do any good. Plus I don't think it's worth it, it's just one day.
So here's my question(s): Do you think it's ok to have SOs at the head table? How do you feel about boys side/girls side head tables? Are even sides STILL necessary AFTER the ceremony? Have you dealt with this situation yourself, either as a maid or a bride?
All thoughts and comments welcome.
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